For a long time, I believed growth was supposed to feel urgent.
More content.
More ideas.
More offers.
More pressure to keep up.
If I wasn’t constantly doing something, tweaking something, launching something… I felt like I was falling behind.
And honestly? It was exhausting.
I kept telling myself that if I just pushed harder—if I stayed more consistent, cracked one more strategy, followed one more expert—things would finally click.
But instead of momentum, I felt scattered.
Instead of confidence, I felt overwhelmed.
Instead of fulfillment, I felt like I was always chasing something just out of reach.
Especially as a mom, this tension was loud. I was trying to grow something meaningful while juggling a full life, and it felt like growth demanded more than I had to give.
Then something shifted.
I stopped chasing growth.
Not in a “giving up” kind of way—but in a getting honest kind of way.
I paused long enough to ask a question I had been avoiding:
What actually feels sustainable for this season of my life?
That question changed everything.
I stopped forcing myself to show up daily just to say I did.
I stopped building for algorithms and started building for real people.
I stopped measuring success by speed and started measuring it by how grounded I felt.
And that’s when clarity showed up.
My ideas felt cleaner.
My work felt lighter.
The right opportunities started finding me—without the constant hustle.
Here’s the truth I learned the hard way:
Growth doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from doing what matters—consistently—without burning yourself out.
Especially if you’re a mom.
Especially if your life is already full.
Especially if you’re building something alongside real responsibilities.
We’re often taught that slowing down means falling behind. But what I’ve found is the opposite.
Sometimes slowing down is the thing that lets you see clearly.
Sometimes simplifying is the most strategic move you can make.
Sometimes choosing one thing and committing to it is more powerful than chasing ten.
If you’ve been feeling behind, tired, or quietly questioning whether you’re doing enough, let this be your reminder:
You’re not late.
You’re not failing.
You’re not broken.
You’re just being invited to grow differently.
With intention instead of urgency.
With clarity instead of chaos.
With space to breathe.
And that kind of growth?
It lasts.
This blog post is part of ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’
hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Cerebration – Think with body, mind & soul.
This is how I explain this concept to my clients – if you need to chase something, it means that it is running away from you.
So yes, you are right when you say that when you stopped chasing, clarity showed up. Wonderful post!
Absolutely on the point. Slowing down is sensibility. I was in the same boat until I started telling myself quantity didn’t matter, sanity did, slowing down is practical and leads to better results.
I’ve found this clarity in my life too and it’s been such a life-changing experience. What feels real to us reaches others, organically and efficiently. Algorithms change but what we create with heart and passion doesn’t need to follow trends.
Lovely . Taking a pause, a breath, working intentionally so necessary for one’s sanity
This write-up had me thinking about what is important and what is not. So simple yet clear explanation?
Absolutely agree with you. Growth is different for different people. Choosing what’s best for you is key not blindly following the trend or doing something blindly what worked for others, and for that, we need to pause and reflect. Lovely write-up and reinstates faith in my personal belief. Thank you.
This is the clarity we all yearn for. Thank you for writing down your thoughts and inspiring us
Your reflection on letting go of constant growth and embracing presence was so refreshing and grounding. You expressed something many of us feel but don’t always say.
Absolutely ..It’s so easy to get caught in the “more, faster, better” trap, especially as a mom trying to do it all. Slowing down isn’t giving up, It’s about getting honest with what’s sustainable. Sometimes focusing on what truly matters is far more powerful than chasing everything at once.
I loved how your story about stepping off the growth treadmill feels so honest and grounding, showing that slowing down can open space for clarity, joy, and purpose in ways we rarely let ourselves experience in the rush of everyday life.
This is how I take life now. All that adrenaline rush and chasing after goals lands you only in a nervy mess. It is a hard lesson to learn, but I am glad to see you young ladies realising it early. We didnt have internet as a sounding board or a wake up call.
This feels deeply lived, not just written. As a fellow mom navigating ambition and nap schedules, I felt this in my bones. The shift from urgency to sustainability is powerful and honest. You didn’t romanticize slowing down, you earned it. This reads like clarity after chaos, and that’s beautiful.
Very well-explained in an effortless way. In our pursuit of perfection and constant leaning towards growth, we can actually mess things up. Not only us, but our kids suffer too.
so true, I faced this issue a month back when I tried my hands on content creation. But I have realised how much of it is actually helping me and not making me burnout
Many times, we loose focus on being consistent, and maintain the steady pace to keep working when we run behind aparent “growth”. But we end up forgetting that even being consistant at creating something is growing. Having something to share all the time is a good marker of growth.