Motherhood is a journey filled with love, lessons, and—let’s be honest—a fair share of stress. As moms, we deeply value our connection with our kids, especially during the challenging tween and teen years. We want to be present, understanding, and supportive. But what happens when guilt, power struggles, and frustration get in the way?
If you ever feel like you’re caught between wanting to be the “understanding mom” and needing to enforce rules, you’re not alone. Striking that balance can be overwhelming. Too firm, and you risk pushing your teen away. Too lenient, and the lack of boundaries might lead to chaos. The key is to create a space where respect and understanding go both ways.
Shifting from Control to Communication
Instead of falling into the “Because I said so” trap, try shifting your approach to: “Here’s why this rule matters…” This small change opens the door for conversation and helps your teen feel heard while still respecting your authority. When your child understands the why behind a rule, they’re more likely to respect it.
Setting Firm Yet Flexible Boundaries
Boundaries are not about control—they are about creating a sense of safety and mutual respect. Instead of enforcing rigid rules, aim for boundaries that allow your teen to express themselves while still maintaining family values. For example, if curfew is 9 PM but your teen wants extra time for a school event, discussing exceptions builds trust without undermining the rule.
Let’s Talk About Your Parenting Style
Every mom approaches parenting differently, and understanding your natural tendencies can help you grow. Want to know your parenting style? Take my Parenting Style Quiz.
For more insights on setting boundaries effectively, check out this helpful resource from Psychology Today.
Feeling stuck in constant power struggles? Let’s figure it out together. Book a free clarity call with me here. Let’s create a parenting approach that works for both you and your teen!
