Motherhood is much important nowadays more than ever

It has been said again and again that the hardest job in the world is being a mother. Despite this fact, known and accepted by society and backed by research, more and more women are pushed to go beyond the values and beliefs they have just to fit with what society dictates.

What is it? Be a working mom. Don’t waste your education. You’ve built a career and would just abandon it?

The concept of motherhood as a profession has gained importance in recent years due to various factors. Here are some reasons why motherhood as a profession is more important nowadays:

  1. Changing social and cultural norms: The traditional roles of men and women in society have been changing, and women are now more likely to work outside the home. As a result, the role of mothers has become more important as they are often the primary caregivers for children.
  2. Increased focus on child development: There is a growing understanding of the importance of early childhood development and the impact that early experiences have on lifelong health and well-being. Mothers play a critical role in providing a safe and nurturing environment for their children.
  3. Increased complexity of parenting: Parenting in the modern world has become more complex due to factors such as social media, technology, and increased expectations for child development. Mothers often have to navigate these complex issues and provide guidance and support to their children.
  4. Importance of work-life balance: Many women now want to balance their careers with motherhood, and the concept of motherhood as a profession acknowledges the importance of the work that mothers do in raising and nurturing their children.

Overall, the concept of motherhood as a profession acknowledges the important work that mothers do in raising and nurturing their children. It highlights the importance of supporting mothers in their role as caregivers and recognizing the value of their contributions to society.

Being a corporate gal myself who switched to being a SAHM, I must admit and can’t/ wouldn’t hide that I’ve had my own mental difficulties due to societal pressure. Luckily, with the help of Self-Care, I’m able to embrace the fact and have more clarity on what my real purpose at this time of my life is.

With this, I’m able to focus more on what matters most which is taking care of our daughters who are ages 4 and 5 at the time I stopped working. These I think are the most special moments parental guidance is much needed as this is where children are grasping like sponges the values and beliefs of whomever adult they see.

I know and understand that not all of us are given the same circumstances in life. Finances for one is one of the biggest reason why most mothers are forced to work. This was also one of the hurdles we as a family needed to pass through. After a careful evaluation of our finances and what’s the need at the moment for our family, it became clear what needs to be done. Putting up my career on hold to focus more on the upbringing of our daughters with the help of wise financial planning is what our values lead us to.

This may be against a lot of societal norms yet, we’re happily satisfied and able to withhold any other hurdles that come our way.

How about you? What’s your opinion on this matter?

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Bohemian Bibliophile.

Motherhood secret#1: When being respectful saves the day!

I’ve been a mom for 9 years and again for another for the past 7 years and 10 months. I think it’s safe to say that I’ve learned some tricks and tweaks throughout the years.

Today, I’d like to share with you how to show respect to your children. This can give them some morale and sanity to you.😀 There’s no doubt raising kids is a tough job. Do it with a hot temper and you’ll be boiling in no time! Especially if you live in a place like where we live, hot and humid Singapore! ugh!

Since becoming a SAHM 4 years ago (whew! that was fast!), I’ve learned that letting down my guard doesn’t help either me or my daughters. It’s just letting them grow without supervision under my nose, with no direction, no values, and no discipline. There’s no way that’s gonna happen! That’s not the kind of parenting we want our daughters to grow up with.

I knew there was a key for me to still be a mom without them feeling too controlled. And that’s where respect comes in!

I remember during our last vacation to the Philippines and it was getting late. Most would think that bedtime would be close to extinction by then. Well, no!

When I called for the girls that it was time for bed, they simply get up and followed. No buts, no crying.

After putting them to bed, one of my cousins asked me, how did you do that?! How are you able to let them follow you without hesitation?

Well, I simply told him, it’s RESPECT.

You just didn’t see me telling them earlier that they still have 10 minutes before bedtime. With this kind of notification ahead of time, they had time to shift their mindset. They knew they needed to do what needed to be done before I call them again. By doing this, they don’t feel deprived or rushed away from whatever they are doing.

Children may be young but they are also individuals. They also need the same respect each one of us asks for and appreciate when given. This not only teaches them life lessons on how to treat others. It also teaches them how to expect others to treat them as well.

What’s great about this is it also saves a parent from stress. And if you’re an adult, you’d surely simply do things if it saves you a headache or two! That’s Self-Care ladies and gentlemen!😉

I hope you find this helpful as a parent. Have you learned some insightful lessons you could apply to your parenting as well?

Do you mindfully add respect when you deal with your children? How do you show respect to your children? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!

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The Truth about Children

I’ve been so blessed and grateful to watch and see our two daughters grow. I’m also grateful I’ve got the same mindset as my husband who values the guidance children needs rather than compensating lost time through giving material things and the whatnots.

I understand also that this isn’t always the case for many. Others simply doesn’t have any choice. And that’s totally fine. Know that you’re also doing great and doing the best of your ability.

This though is for those who have the choice and well, maybe not realising yet the importance of the guidance they can give to their children.

It’s been a habit of mine to either take a photo or screenshot anything that I encounter in my daily life that makes me pause for a while, think, contemplate, take the lessons from it, and try to apply.

This is a great writing of Dorothy Law Nolte that I can’t even remember where I saw from. Just saw on my phone gallery when I’m trying to clear some photos. I saved it last December 25, 2021 2:52PM. If you know me, I also am into manifestation. So those numbers means something and I knew I needed to share this message to you. So here it is, it’s called Children Learn What They Live.

Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children life with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children life with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children life with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is food to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

If you don’t find this so impactful as a parent, I don’t know already. The message has been written so clearly and understandable, you wouldn’t miss on any. It touched my motherly or should we say parent heart, and I hope yours too. Well, more of, I hope you make sure it affects you in some ways to improve more on your parenting as well.

If also you haven’t got a chance to see my previous blog and you’re into movies, I hope you get to read it too!