The Truth about Children

I’ve been so blessed and grateful to watch and see our two daughters grow. I’m also grateful I’ve got the same mindset as my husband who values the guidance children needs rather than compensating lost time through giving material things and the whatnots.

I understand also that this isn’t always the case for many. Others simply doesn’t have any choice. And that’s totally fine. Know that you’re also doing great and doing the best of your ability.

This though is for those who have the choice and well, maybe not realising yet the importance of the guidance they can give to their children.

It’s been a habit of mine to either take a photo or screenshot anything that I encounter in my daily life that makes me pause for a while, think, contemplate, take the lessons from it, and try to apply.

This is a great writing of Dorothy Law Nolte that I can’t even remember where I saw from. Just saw on my phone gallery when I’m trying to clear some photos. I saved it last December 25, 2021 2:52PM. If you know me, I also am into manifestation. So those numbers means something and I knew I needed to share this message to you. So here it is, it’s called Children Learn What They Live.

Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children life with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children life with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children life with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is food to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

If you don’t find this so impactful as a parent, I don’t know already. The message has been written so clearly and understandable, you wouldn’t miss on any. It touched my motherly or should we say parent heart, and I hope yours too. Well, more of, I hope you make sure it affects you in some ways to improve more on your parenting as well.

If also you haven’t got a chance to see my previous blog and you’re into movies, I hope you get to read it too!

All you need to know about Self-Care

I’ve asked through IG stories this week what do moms struggle the most. A lot of you have responded (thanks!) and though you said it in different ways, most of it is addressed towards the thought of lacking enough time(both for yourself and the people you love).

As a mother of two, I totally understand how hard it is to squeeze all your responsibilities in 24 hours and have time for yourself. Believe me, I get it. But what’s mind-boggling is, asking why do most of us feel that way? Do we really need more time or there’s a deeper reason why we think this way, perhaps comparing to others? Why do we struggling with time when there’s tons of ways and things we can use, especially nowadays with the help of technology, to give us a helping hand?

We all know that time is constant and if we want change in our life, that change needs to come from us. Here’s how it can be done:

First and for most, I think it is important to rationalise if this feeling is really ours. You see, most of who we are and what we do/think is affected by the society we live in or the people around us. So I want you to ask yourself this questions:

  1. Why do I feel I don’t have enough time in a day? Is it because you see your friend’s photo on a beach with her family having fun when you’re stuck at home, tired doing chores, hubby so busy watching his fave TV show and frustrated kids having tantrums every minute longing for your attention?
  2. Do I really need to work that long? Or you try to multitask the wrong way by mixing leisure while doing work? You think that you can accomplish more by doing that but end up feeling frustrated not being able to give time for yourself and have a half-hearted task accomplished.
  3. Do I neglect taking care of myself first before I think of taking care of others/ doing other things for other people? Have you been living a martyr life even if you barely live any quality a real saint would have? When was the last time you felt genuinely happy and not because others are happy?

No life is easy. Everyone has their own struggles in life. The only reason why others carry their problems more lightly than others is because they make sure to fill their cup first before diving into whatever life has to offer them. When you know you’re complete and you as you, you can do whatever it is that’s needed to be accomplished.

Secondly, understanding that Self-Care means much more than a day in a spa. Self-Care actually affects every aspect of your life and if you aren’t that mindful about it, then that becomes a problem.

Self-Care affects doesn’t only affects how you look physically but mentally as well. If affects your emotions, how you personally, and how you interact socially. Not only that, your spiritual relationship is affected as well. And let’s not forget how it affects you financially and the effects of it on how you perform any job (as a SAHM or working-mom).

Most of the time we live our lives like a living zombie just letting days flow as it is without much thought when in reality, you should do every aspect of your living with purpose.

The moment you live your life mindfully, everything that you say, do, and interact with would be done the way you want it to be even without much thinking about it. The Law of Attraction kicks in, the universe would align and nothing could/ would stop your success. (Okay, I’m exaggerating a bit) We know that this barely happens. You’ll sooner/later face hiccups but because you’re in such good spirits, you’ll surely find a way to solve the problem.

You might be asking now, how does Self-Care helps in solving my problem with time?

Well, you actually won’t be having that problem at all because all aspect of your being have been taken care of. You’ll be living your life with contentment and live life without regrets.

Still finding it hard to grasp what I meant? Schedule a FREE Discovery Call and let’s make that clear once and for all. That’s what this tribe is for, right?!

Mom Hack: Respecting Time

Time is what we want the most, but what we use the worst. 
- William Penn

As a mother, there’s no doubt most of us would scream for more time to be able to do everything we want to do in 24 hours. This usually results feeling guilty of not being able to accomplish everything we have in mind to do that day. We think and think about it and couldn’t sleep. This only results to feeling sluggish the next day because lack of sleep. It’s not hard to guess what happens when this happens everyday and the stress accumulates. The feeling of something about to explode from the inside is something avoidable but most moms fall short in seeing it happen.

Does this sound like you? Have you been feeling stressed-out lately and things starts getting out of hand? Probably it’s time to set some Mom Boundaries to get back on track and be that confident mom again that you’ve are!

Here are some simple Mom Hacks to make more use of your time in a day and feel less stressed at the same time:

  1. Knowing your PRIORITIES. From the moment you wake up, you roughly know the things you need to do within the day. Making a “To-do list” can come in handy but if you aren’t keen in doing one, that’s okay. What’s important is having in mind a sense of which you priorities to do more on that particular day.

Is it paying your electric bill or dropping by to visit your long-time friend you haven’t seen in decades. Surely meeting up with your friend can be exciting but forgetting to pay your electric bill surely wouldn’t make anyone excited if you miss on doing. There’s nothing wrong in doing things you want to do as long as you know you’ve tick that things on your priority list first before having some fun. Now that’s what you call ‘adulting responsibility’!

2. Be realistic. Preparing your “to-do list” and knowing which one of it is your priority for the day wouldn’t serve its purpose if you don’t set a realistic time in doing them. Being mindful with your schedule is very important. Optimism doesn’t always work when you deal with time as time is definite and you can’t do much about it rather just need to learn to manage it wisely.

More often that not, listing things like going to the bank, getting some milk and bread, fetching the kids and paying the bills can seem like an easy-peasy task for your sooth-sailing afternoon and give you ample time to make dinner. Doing it in reality ain’t that easy though. Forgetting to account the queues in the bank and grocery and travel time going here could easily turn your seemingly uneventful afternoon haywire. You might even resort to ordering pizza on the way home just so you’ll have some dinner to feed you family by the time you arrive home!

3. Learn to adjust. You might have planned well how you want your day to be but as a mom, you’ll know that only change is constant. Trust that there will always be that tantrum that you can’t avoid or someone left at home some important project and you’ll need to turn around.

By knowing how to shuffle your priorities without ruining your mood and just accepting the fact that there’s really no perfect day in motherhood is the key. It’s all about knowing how to deal with change as and when it is needed. Being frustrated only makes you stress and not help you finish the tasks you want to do.

4. Mastering the art of time. Picking the most important task from your list, taking a deep breath and just start being busy doing it. At times, tasks doesn’t really need much time to do. It’s just that we get distracted most of the time while doing things. This results to spending more time than what we really needed.

Learning to time-block and concentrate on doing things in a short time (undisturbed) can usually do the trick. Use that phone-time to cook your 30-minute meal or write a blog. Your kids surely wouldn’t mind and you’ll also have you pockets of peace doing your thing.

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