Top 5 to reasons why travelling with young children is the best

If you have told me last March that we would be having a picnic in front of the Eiffel Tower soon, I’d probably laugh at you. Unlike most families we get to watch on YouTube who go travel the world for a living (oh well, maybe if you support our YouTube Channel😁), our family of four does what most families do (have normal jobs), live in Singapore, and relying on a single income, I’m a SAHM. So the chances of us doing this is quite slim given the high cost of living here. Yet, life is truly full of surprises and incredibly unpredictable, you just have to hold your breathe at times, be grateful, and to pinch yourself into reality!

Us having a picnic with this beautiful view of the Eiffel Tower

I grew up with my parents working abroad. They made sure though to make up with quality time every school vacation. So you can imagine our anticipation whenever March comes nearer (school year in the Philippines starts June and ends in March) so we can go fly to Japan to visit our parents. Let’s just say, I got that love for travel because of my parents. Riding our mini-van, we would do convoy trips with my aunts and uncle who are on their own mini-vans as well with our cousins around the mountains of Japan. Those memories are really memorable ones that I wouldn’t forget and a topic we could talk about the whole day laughing without fail.

Being a parent myself now, I for sure would love to have those kind of memories with our children as well. So equipped with a grateful heart for any opportunity that may came our way, hard work from the hubs, and a watchful eye on our finances, we didn’t have any second thoughts when the chance for our family to go on a Europe trip arise.

Taking one hiccup at a time that came our way, we managed to pull off the most epic trip our family have gone to to-date! I guess I’ll make another blog post on all the hiccups we’ve managed to find a solution with. For now, here’s the details of our Europe travel:

  1. Flew from Singapore to Greece via Scoot Airline
  2. Flew from Greece to Netherlands via Aegean Airline
  3. Travelled by train from Netherlands to France passing through Belgium via Eurail
  4. Travelled by train from France to Italy passing through Switzerlands via Eurail
  5. Flew from Italy to Singapore passing through Finland via FinnAir
Eurail route we’ve travelled

All in all, that’s a staggering 30hrs 90mins on air(on a plane) and 1 day 17hrs on a train in a total of 18 days. Isn’t that amazing!!! That may be a long time but since did stayed most of those days in Greece and Netherlands and only started our train travel on the last 8 days our trip, I must say, we’re all happy to be back home in Singapore to have a good rest by the end of our trip. haha…

Data from our Eurail app on how far and long we’ve travelled

So why would I still encourage parents to go on an epic adventure travelling with their kids? Here’s the reasons why:

  1. You want it. If you love travelling like me, that love for travelling isn’t removed from your identity no matter how many kids you have nor no matter what age your children may be at the time being. If you have the means (time and money) to do so, do it!
  2. You need it. Being a parent comes with tons of responsibilities. We are all humans and needed a break once in a while. A change in scenery, gaining new experiences, and adding up some family memories can’t be exchanged with any material thing.
  3. You get to save. Being both from the field of Finance, we can’t deny how much conscious we are when it comes to our expenses when we travel. That’s why, one thing we love about travelling with our kids is we get to save from fare. From either travelling for FREE or HALF-PRICE on airfare to totally FREE on trains such as SHINKANSEN (when we travelled in Japan back in 2019) or EURAIL (when we travelled now in 2022).
  4. You’ll remember it. One phrase parents always get from others when they travel with their young is this, “Travel when your kids are older so they’ll remember it too“. Well, I’ve got only 3 things to say to them, “I’ll surely remember the trip and would document it with tons of photos so my kids would get to see it when they’re older” , We’ll go back again when they are older if it’s worth visiting again, and lastly, “Appreciate your opinion but we think we’re doing great with out parenting, thank you, you can go ahead and mind your own business.” haha…okay, that last ones can be pretty harsh and personally I haven’t used that but given in our society today where everyone seems to know too well of everything on everything, you have my blessing to use it if the need arises.😉
  5. You only get to do it now. Life is short. Yesterday has already gone and we can’t be sure of tomorrow. Our only guarantee is today, so always make the most of it. Once your kids have gone bigger, you might not have the time or resources (money) to go on a trip, or your kids may rather go on trips on their own. Now is the time you get to spend with them, so go ahead and do it!

Okay, I know this blog post can be too optimistic and blindsided by the cons of travelling with kids, so let me do another blog post on that just so you can get to prepare from all of them as well. One thing’s for sure though, it may be difficult, hard, and tiring but with a few tips and tricks on how your trip can be made easier for you and your child, I guarantee you, IT WOULD BE ALL WORTH IT!

Are you going on a family trip soon? I’d love to hear where you’re heading or where you’ve been to!Let’s share ideas, tips, places to travel, etc. and do what moms do best at…SUPPORTING EACH OTHER!

Cheers to EPIC FAMILY TRIPS!

Easy ways to Step up your Daily Habits

We all have heard of eating healthy, keeping hydrated, exercising, and getting enough sleep if you are gearing towards living a healthy lifestyle, or what we love saying, living with the right habits.

By all means, those are all great and if done, will help you tremendously. If, and only if, you would want to go a step further though, there’s still tons of ways you can add to that! Take note that like all the other habits, these doesn’t necessarily need you to do much nor spend tons of money. What it needs is you doing it on a daily basis to see some effect.

Here are some next level daily habit ideas you can add to your daily ones:

DRY SKIN BRUSHING  

Our skin is the largest organ in our body, sometimes referred to as the third kidney, therefore, it is vital for our skin to do detoxification as well. Skin brushing is one way to do it. I just checked on Shopee for less than SGD 10.

Here’s how to skin brush:

  • Skin brush with a dry brush before you shower or bathe.
  • Always brush towards your heart, with the flow of the lymphatic fluid.
  • Begin at the soles of your feet, then move up your legs, brushing in circular motions.
  • Brush your chest and shoulders towards your heart in long strokes, then start at the fingertips and brush towards your body. Use small, circular strokes in your armpits.
  • It is suggested you move in a circular motion counterclockwise on your stomach to respect the direction of digestion and encourage detoxification.
  • Follow with a shower or bath using an all-natural soap.

TONGUE SCRAPING

I’ve been personally doing this for the past 3 weeks and though I haven’t seen real evidence on how it had helped with my digestion and liver, I am always left in awe on how disgustingly dirty my tongue is every time I scrape it. I might confess that it has been slowly turning into an addiction actually scraping my tongue.

So what are the benefits of doing this, you might ask? Tongue scraping every morning allows you to remove bacteria that can lead to poor digestion and liver stagnation.

I suggest tongue scraping before brushing your teeth. We got ours from Shopee as we needed new toothbrushes. I was quite skeptical on getting one so this toothbrush with a tongue scraper at the other end was a great way to try it out.

Doing it isn’t as complicated as you think. Simply use Use a tongue scraper or even a spoon, if you don’t have one, and reach as far back as possible, and pull forward, scraping off the white film, which is what you call the candida and streptococcus mutans.

EPSOM SALT BATHS 

Salt bath has been one of the most used one from this list. There’s different salt baths sold nowadays as part of Self-Care kits. Soaking for 20 minutes in an Epsom salt bath is of the most wonderful way to detoxify the body and relax the soul.

Try making one yourself if you are not keen to buying one. I’m sure you can find almost all of the ingredients available in your kitchen.

Here’s an easy recipe to make one:

Use that while in a warm bath and enjoy a nice cup of tea afterwards…Ahhh..I’m feeling relaxed already just writing this.haha

REBOUNDING 

Okay, let’s not complicate this too much. It’s basically a trampoline. This has been proven to be effective for lymphatic drainage. It is suggested to do rebounding for 15 minutes per day. Who would have thought, right?!

Anyways, I’ve been living in Singapore for more than a decade already and it’s very clear that we can’t have those backyard trampoline we see the Westerners can have due to space constraints. Well, no excuses here! Decathlon have these Fitness Trampoline fit for a single person with a front bar (I think for safety purposes) for S$120 while a Cardio Fitness Trampoline (without front bar) costs S$ 50. Great options so there won’t be any excuses to do Self-Care!

SWEATING

Not sure if this should still be included on the list but let’s just add it anyway. Committing to do at least 15 minutes of exercise a day just breaking a sweat can make a big difference already. Sweat releases toxins from the body, and regular exercise helps get the blood moving. This is essential for our body to have a healthy metabolism.

There’s a lot of ways to do exercising without exerting much effort. You can try brisk walking, jogging, rebounding, or cycling. Try going into YouTube and you’ll find tons of videos you can follow to break a sweat.

Another method to work up a sweat is by going in a sauna, a steam room, or a hot bath. It is essential to make sure to hydrate after sweating.

OIL PULLING

I first heard of oil pulling when I had the opportunity to interview Hema Dadhwal, an Instagram Influencer and Holistic Lifestyle Guru in one of my episodes of Women’s Self-Care Series. This has been part of her Self-Care habits. Truly, oil pulling has been one of the common detoxification practice for centuries. Coconut oil are the most commonly used kind of oil in doing this. 

Here’s how to do oil pulling:

  • Put 1-2 tablespoons of oil in your mouth
  • Swish the oil for 5-20 minutes
  • Spit the oil in the trash can (to avoid it hardening and clogging up your sink)
  • Rinse your mouth with water and sea salt
  • Brush your teeth

Take Note: Oil pulling should be done on an empty stomach to ensure maximum benefits. The best times to do this are upon waking up or before going to bed. 

If you are doing both oil pulling and tongue scraping, it is suggest you start with the oil pulling first.

Are you loving this article or you think it’s a bit too complicated for you? Try reading my previous article on Easy habits you can start for a better Lifestyle. Remember, we shouldn’t overwhelm ourselves doing anything. Life is too short not to do things with joy and happiness.

Let me know in the comments which new daily habits are you looking most likely to add to your current ones!

Reasons why teaching kids not to whine is important

I recently watched this clip about #nowhiningwednesday where she made it into a challenge for herself (at first) and put into a jar a quarter every time she would whine, complain, or criticise. The results was so surprising cause she almost filled up half of the jar!

This got me excited!

As a mom with 2 virtually schooling kiddos, we don’t give money to our girls so just so it would be more fun for them, I put it into writing and made like a scoreboard. haha. These girls are truly competitive that they put so much effort to think before they act or talk. I tell you, our morning has been much much better that I’m so eager to buy some ice cream for snack later as a reward for ourselves.

On contrary, it’s not only the girls who’ve been showing some effort. I myself got some big realisations on how much I do whine as well. Well, not that vocal and showy like kiddos do when they have their tantrums of course, but with my thoughts?!!? oh gosh! Those silent, ugh!, huh!, and the list goes on.If you’re a parent, you know what I’m talking about.🤪

Have you tried this challenge already? I urge you to do so. If you’re an adult who just wants to do this alone, why not try doing it with the jar with loose coins! Not only would it help you realise how much whining/complaining you’ve been doing but you’ll also learn to be more mindful in the days to come. What’s more great about this is having that jar full of coins which you could either share(donate), save(for rainy days), or spend! Why not celebrate with some ice cream like us!

Here’s are more reasons why you should do this with your kids:

  1. You’ll learn to step back and try to look at the bigger picture before you act next time. This will help practice you to catch yourself on whining about things. You’ll get to be more mindful of your actions and find yourself doing the better option on doing things instead of simply whining about whatever that is.
  2. You’ll learn to look from within. Assess if there’s really an issue or something you need to address or its just a simple matter that just is a waste of time for you to think and whine about.
  3. You don’t need to be serious about this challenge. Nobody wants to do something that isn’t enjoyable. The key here is to be consistent on catching yourself from whining and hopefully in the process help you to lessen it. Not into collecting coins? How about the scoreboard like the girls and I are doing?
  4. As I’ve told you, this isn’t for you to feel being restrained from your but to make small changes daily. Knowing this, whining and complaining can’t really be instantly gone from your life. Knowing the right channel to do it while the habit is still within you is a great start. General rule, if it’s a private matter, don’t post it on social media.
  5. Finding the positive in every circumstance can be a great help in making this challenge a manageable one. There’s always a good part on everything despite not us always seeing it. That’s the catch! You need to find and see it!
  6. And last but not the least, practice gratitude. This is very very important. The more we realise how blessed and we are, the more we’ll find this challenge to be easier. Simply look around you and see how you’ve been praying for all those things to be in your life days/weeks/years ago yet, and here you are now! Why not enjoy it!

I hope you get to try this challenge and share your experience with me here in the comments or in my Instagram account @themommywithagoal where I share more positivity and Self-Care daily.

Know that you are enough, blessed, uniquely-made, and a great mom is important. Whining is simply a habit that we’ve all grown accustom to doing, that’s why we do it. Learn how to lessen self-doubt and increase confidence.

The Truth about Children

I’ve been so blessed and grateful to watch and see our two daughters grow. I’m also grateful I’ve got the same mindset as my husband who values the guidance children needs rather than compensating lost time through giving material things and the whatnots.

I understand also that this isn’t always the case for many. Others simply doesn’t have any choice. And that’s totally fine. Know that you’re also doing great and doing the best of your ability.

This though is for those who have the choice and well, maybe not realising yet the importance of the guidance they can give to their children.

It’s been a habit of mine to either take a photo or screenshot anything that I encounter in my daily life that makes me pause for a while, think, contemplate, take the lessons from it, and try to apply.

This is a great writing of Dorothy Law Nolte that I can’t even remember where I saw from. Just saw on my phone gallery when I’m trying to clear some photos. I saved it last December 25, 2021 2:52PM. If you know me, I also am into manifestation. So those numbers means something and I knew I needed to share this message to you. So here it is, it’s called Children Learn What They Live.

Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children life with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children life with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children life with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is food to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

If you don’t find this so impactful as a parent, I don’t know already. The message has been written so clearly and understandable, you wouldn’t miss on any. It touched my motherly or should we say parent heart, and I hope yours too. Well, more of, I hope you make sure it affects you in some ways to improve more on your parenting as well.

If also you haven’t got a chance to see my previous blog and you’re into movies, I hope you get to read it too!

When watching movies becomes a great Self-Care

Most of you know me as a Self-Care mom mentor, others as a mom who loves nature trips, well, I know nobody’s asking but just so you know, I or we as a family also love watching movies as a way to relax and bond. The thing with watching movies is most people associate it with being a couch potato, well, not all. Another thing is how you choose the movies you watch. No matter what explanation you give, what you watch can affect you, your mindset, and your mood, so better choose wisely.

I was truly inspired by the last film we watched last Friday night and can’t help not to share it with you. Not because of the story or advertising or whatever but the lesson I got from the movie itself. Plus, just to relate it with Self-Care, these are the movies you should be watching. haha.. Inspiring movies that could make you think of your own life and how to make it better. Being a couch potato doesn’t seem a bad idea if you look at it that way.

Anyways, the movie is called American Underdog. This movie is an inspirational true story of NFL’s 2-time MVP, Kurt Warner. There isn’t a better movie to watch and get inspired if you’re having those days where you think your dreams seems impossible to reach.

I’m not an NFL fan nor do I understand the game itself. Growing up in the Philippines, we’re more into basketball. Anyways, I sure was able to understand the mechanics of Football fast enough so I can cheer along during the movie itself. haha

What I love with this movie is that from the very start, it’s been laid for the audience loud and clear how it felt like a thread going to a needle would it be for anyone who would dream of being a NFL player. For Kurt, he’s young enough to understand the hurdles and wasn’t scared at all to conquer those setbacks and fears despite knowing them. Instead, he worked his way up and did what was supposed to be done.

While doing all the drills and making sure his body was on shape to be on a team and be able to play seems still not be enough for him to get his dream easily, he says this line, “Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do, until you can do what you want to do”. And I think a lot of us could resonate with him. Every successful person you see and admire could relate to this and you just need to have patience and wait for your time.

As much as I want to re-tell you the whole story, I don’t think I could give justice on how beautiful the film is and besides, I’m not much of a good storyteller, so….I hope you find time to watch it yourself!

I won’t leave you hanging though…here’s some lines I loved and want to share with you all and hope inspires you and get you motivated as well.

I am a work in progress

If this is your dream, you have to fight for it.

Life is not about what you can achieve, it is what you can become

Character translates anywhere.

Don’t get too comfortable.

And these lines as well to inspire you to be more grateful of your partner-in-life, your hubby as life wouldn’t be as great as it is without a great team.

Winning doesn’t always feel like winning, huh?

It doesn’t mean anything if you don’t have someone to share it with.

We did this, We did this together.

I’m not sure if you felt my emotions while watching this movie with the way I write about this but I’d like to tell you that yes, I cried, and cried a lot. Not because I was sad but because of how proud I am of how he was able to accomplish his dream and inspired not to give up on mine as well.

I’d like to hear from you as well on how you find American Underdog as well. I hope you write them in the comments and let this momma movie buff friendship begin! Lols!

Anyways, if your in the mood for more inspiring movies, I’d greatly recommend these:

Moneyball

We are Marshall

Coach Carter

The Blind Side

The Longest Yard

The Express

42

Trouble with the Curve

When the Game Stands Tall

If you’re wondering why all of them are sports related??? Well, doesn’t a winning game give more excitement to a story?And I love when that happens! haha. I’d also want to share my/our own way of reaching a summit. Hope you get to read this trip of ours!

I hope you all a great Chinese New Year and keep yourselves safe from the Pandemic jolts! More inspiring blogs to come! Lastly, just so you know, I’ve got a workshop coming out called OWN YOUR TIME. This is specifically made for moms who can’t seem to find their rhythm with time. Attending this workshop would surely bring back the confidence in you in tacking your goals as you’ll find you have more time to do more than you can imagine, and take note, doing it happily and not with stress😉 Make sure to REGISTER NOW!