The Best Christmas Gift Parents can give their children

First of all, I’d like to make it clear that the points highlighted in this article has been inspired from a Facebook video I’ve reposted years ago and just showed up again yesterday in my Memories. Don’t you just love sharing posts that you loved so much that you want to share to everyone you know online? Well, at least that’s the reason why I do it. Another is to inspire myself as well in the next few years. Seeing posts that inspired you at that moment in time can remind you to be inspired once more.

Anyways, you can watch the video here. It’s from a speaker named Dr. Justin Coulson, a parenting expert from Australia. The title of his talk was 3 Principles for Happier Families.

I couldn’t let this opportunity pass now to write something about it and to give more of my insights about this topic. Not only because I’m feeling the Holiday spirit as Christmas is only 12 days to go, but also because there’s no better time to spread awareness on these principles to parents like me than this season of giving love.

I’ve recently wrote an article about Christmas Tradition that you can do with your family as I really want to make it a point to highlight how important is to remember and know the true meaning of Christmas than just merely buy and give gifts.

Christmas time is truly a wonderful time. For most children, it is the most awaited time of the year! For parents though, well, let’s be honest…with everything getting expensive, those toys are getting more and more ridiculously outrageous as well.

Despite that, whether included on budget or not, we try our best to give them to our children. Well, hopefully you don’t get too carried away though and let your pockets have those deep holes after Christmas (if you know what I mean) *wink*

Here’s some really great gifts you can give your children no matter what age they are in and would truly be appreciated and remembered for the rest of their lives. What’s great about this is you don’t need to wait for Christmas to give them… you can give it as much as you want, any day of the year, without spending a single dollar!

Love

According to theconversation.com, Love is an emotion that keeps people bonded and committed to one another. Just by reading that meaning makes my heart giggle inside. Who doesn’t want to feel loved?!

Feeling loved and giving/showing love is one of the best thing you can give, and receive. Nothing beats that! And when you are in this cloud-nine feeling, doesn’t it make everything in your life feel great? Your stars seems to align everything that’s happening in your life and everything seems perfect!

Loving and showing your love to children can be somehow tricky though. Most parents think giving that toys and other material things is what their children would want them to give. Unfortunately, children may be young and not know much about life but they sure know one thing. That there’s no much more valuable in life than TIME. And that’s what they want from us as parents. Our time.

Just like in business, they say, time is money. Or with professionals who charge the services they do based on the time they spend on doing things. Our children knows that! Spending time with them is one of the best things you can give them.

Here are some simple yet valuable ideas on how you can spend QUALITY time with your family:

  • Spend time eating at least one meal a day together. Have a fun talk during meals.
  • Go for nature walks. Spending time away from civilisation is always fun. There’s no same thing you can see no matter how many times you pass by the same route. Nature has its own way of making things interestingly beautiful every time.
  • Read a book together. This month of December, we’re doing this Family Tradition of Reading the Book of Luke each night till Christmas. It’s not only about reading the Bible but commemorating the life of Jesus and making Christmas more meaningful.
  • Put away all gadgets. It’s not only the phones that keeps us distracted in spending quality time with our family. Many might argue that their phone is too important to them and there might be something like an emergency that might come up. The trick that I do is to leave it in another room where you can still hear it rings. It’s simply to assume that your smartphone is line your landline that you can’t simply move along with you around.
  • Meal made with love. Cook together as a family and enjoy laughter like no other! Not only do you create great memories but your children also learn some great math in there! All those fraction woes would surely be easy peasy for them!

Limits

True love comes with respect. We all are human and that means we have limitation in everything. Learning to say “no” and understanding the reason behind it is an important matter.

What’s great with children is they are first and foremost under you wing from the very start. They key is to slowly let them loose with trust with them knowing by heart their limits. And while children’s rights are important, we are still the ones in-charge of letting them understand the responsibilities that right entails.

Living with freedom is everyone’s need. What will make most enjoy more that freedom is if each one knows the limits they have on everything. Am I being too preachy?!

Okay, enough, let’s get to the good part again.😊

Laughter

When was the last time you spend genuine laughter with your family? We often associate laughter with happiness and when it comes to being happy, we associate to giving material things to be able to make others feel that way. That’s where we got everything all twisted.

Children simply wants the laughter. That means as simple as telling jokes, dancing like nobody’s watching, or simply making hilarious stories. Our children are the most fun and cool people on earth and ones who would let you see the goodness of life you often miss to see.

I hope this article help you realise how easy it is to give a gift to children this Christmas. I know some parents who get too stressed just to make sure they got the gift their children would want and appreciate. Why not start with these 3 key points and I’m sure no matter it is that you wrapped, you’ll have the most special smile and hug on Christmas day!

Astounding Insights on the Realities of Parental Pressure: A must read

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It has been an honour to be given a chance to make a book review of the book, “The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure“. This book has been written by respectable authors Dr. Chris Thurber and Dr. Hendrie Weisinger. With great works under their belt, I’ve got no doubt even before reading the first page that it would be an incredible, mind-opening and informative read.

True enough, my learnings from reading it went more than I expected it. While parenting in general has no rule book, reading materials where you’re given a sense of understanding whether you’re on the right path of doing things helps lessen ones worries, at least for me.

Parenting is probably one of the most important and hardest responsibility a person could have. What could be harder than being accountable for everything that happens to another person’s life. Not that parent’s are in control of their children’s life all through out their life but it is the parent’s who is in charge of a child especially during their prime years when their character and personality is still being moulded. This I may say is a very important aspect in someone’s life as whatever experience is learned during this childhood years is usually brought and can affect their adult life.

Together with the happiness and joy a child brings, not even before the time they see each other in person, but from the first time the parents hear their child’s heart beat is already an unexplainable episode in a parent’s life. Having experienced it twice in my life, I still got no words to describe how it feels, just thinking about it. That special moment happened to me and my hubby 6 and 7 years ago. Up until today, our daughters provide priceless bliss to our lives and gives us a purpose to always look forward to each and every waking day.

Let’s get real though, the stress they give everyday since they were born is also something!haha. Only parents/ guardians would know how much sacrifice it takes to raise a child. From the changes it brings to you physically (especially moms) to the emotional stress and let’s not forget how much raising a child challenges each parent financially. All of this for the love of a parent to their child. Whew!

I’m happy to say that gone are those sleepless nights for us. We get to joke around nowadays how exhausting it is to change nappies and prepare milk. We may be graduates of that phase already but that doesn’t mean we’re done. Nowadays, these two rascals fill our days with their quirkiness. Nursery rhymes turned to Disney and Nickelodeon shows where they expect us to memories songs like them. As they step up to their Primary education, were slowly setting our minds already that our lives would be filled with school homework and exams.

Being a parent never ends and never gets easy. It just evolves from one thing to another as your child goes through different phases of childhood. Nevertheless, each one only ain’t just a hard task but a joyful memory as well that every parent would remember all through their lives.

This newly released book, “The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure”, gives parents and insight of what is really happening in the world of parenthood. As always, you don’t realise much what you are doing or rather give more thought to what you are into when your head is on the game. It’s only when you go out of the arena, watch from the outside and see the better picture that it becomes more clearer if what you’ve been doing is good or bad, helpful or not.

Truly there’s a lot of ways parenting can be made. Sticking to the main goal which is to bring out the best from our children for them to be better prepared for their future may always be in mind. Since there’s a very thin line dividing the interest of parents as well, most parents fall into the pit of unintentionally pressuring their children without them knowing. Books like this can help us better do our job.

Everyone’s life has been shaken since the Pandemic. As if life isn’t hard already, the challenge to keep afloat even became harder. Not only is every parent expected to adapt quickly to a new era and ways to do things (work from home) but also to help their children live with it too (homeschooling).

This time couldn’t be any sweeter if we think of it as a way for families to finally spend time with each other. It’s no secret that life has taken toll on all of us and we’ve been living in a fast paced life before the Pandemic happened. That’s one way of looking at it, however, like anything else, there’s a downfall to it. With kids spending more time with their parents close enough to always nag them in their every move, it’s only natural that they get into each other’s nerves more.

While every parent’s intention would always be for the best of their children, like what has been mentioned many times earlier, as humans, our natural competitiveness comes out with our children being our lead player. The focus on achieving the right pressure to our children for them to be successful in any matter can easily be transformed to harmful pressure without being mindful.

Without being mindful, examples like these happens:

Children doing their best = Children should be the best
Children learning from mistakes = Children shouldn’t have mistakes

As parents our primary role is to support our children until they’re old enough to be/do on their own certain tasks. Somehow along the way, this support gets mixed up with pressure from parents. The authors gave great examples that made it easier for parents to understand without having the feeling of being told what/how one should do their parenting. This examples have been perfectly described in different behaviours such as Importance, Opportunity, Competition, Perfection, Urgency, Control, and Display.

As you can tell, I can’t get enough of how much I appreciate this great book. Reading it wasn’t only an informative pleasure but really a help in realising how parenting works. With our society nowadays fast evolving, parents can’t rely solely from advice of elders as their parenting ways can be much more different from how things are done in this era. With children also having more access to information, parents would need to keep up with this.

I greatly recommend “The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure” by Dr. Chris Thurber and Dr. Hendrie Weisinger as it isn’t just an eye-opener but it would make you think and realise of your own parenting ways without being pushy enough telling you to do things. Anyways, learning should never exhaust the mind but done in different ways or fun ways like reading.

This post is a part of Book Marathon 2022 by https://outsetbooks.com

Weekend trips with kids tips

As you all know, we’ve been into nature trips this past few months. Our main objective going on these trips has been mainly for us to be able to have a breather and at least go out of our house once a week but still being cautious enough and staying away from the crowd.

How hard could it be? Go and be-friend the nature instead!

Truly, the past trips has thought this momma how important it is to pack light (I’m still trying) but yet still have all the things your family needs when they need it (is that even possible? it is!)

You might think that our kids may be grown-ups already but at 6 and 7 years old, they’re still children + the hubs!haha.. We may only be hopping on a bus/train and be out for a day but if you’re in the middle of the woods and need a band-aid…well, you better be sure to have one! (This is me trying to justify why this blog post is important.haha)

Anyways, I’d like to share with your how I prepare for these Nature trips. Like most moms, it starts the night before.

First, make sure that GoPro batteries, power-bank and hand phones are all charged.

Second is the bag. What’s in my bag?

  • a towel
  • a fan
  • my wallet
  • small first-aid kit
  • eyeglasses & shades
  • GoPro and batteries
  • a pen – my mom used to tell me to have one at all times in my bag to be used for writing(of course!) and a weapon in case of emergency
  • tissue
  • 2 sanitizers (1 inside and 1 hanging out)
  • phone
  • 2 pcs. of plastic (comes in handy for the kiddos when it suddenly rains)
  • snacks
  • house keys

I pack the girls their bags depending on where we’re going. If I know they’ll need a change of clothes after, then I do pack for them (or at times, I let them do it themselves—but make sure to check it after to make sure they don’t bring unnecessary stuff) My youngest tried to bring a crossword book to one of our trips!! ugh!

Here are the items in the girls backpack:

  • water bottle
  • extra shirt
  • towel
  • snacks
  • phone
  • 2 small toys

If they’re not bringing one, their water bottle simply hangs on their necks.

The hubs has his own bag that hangs on his neck which I make sure to put a towel on and his wallet.

Third, prepare everyone’s outfit for the next day. You don’t want to be stressed the next day just because that pink shirt your daughter wants to wear is in the laundry and haven’t been washed.

Fourth, do a briefing with everyone. For us, this means me confirming with the hubs what time we’ll be leaving. This gives me the luxury to plan my time wisely and make sure everyone and everything goes into plan. Once I’ve planned my wake-up time, what brekky (if we’ll be eating before leaving), it’s time to talk to my troopers. Yes, I make sure our daughters are mentally prepared as well. This eliminates morning mood swings and instead just need to whisper to their ear and they’ll wake-up easily. How convenient!

Last but not the least, I make sure I fix myself first before waking up anyone else. This may mean waking up an hour before but rushing and being stressed and ruin my mood because I wasn’t feeling myself would only ruin everyone’s day. So this small sacrifice is very much needed.

Motherhood is a testament it doesn’t require a plane ticket for one to have the need to be well organised for an adventure. It simply means making sure to being ready every time you and your family step foot out of your house, and having what you need when needed.

Hope this you find this helpful. Any tips you’d like to add? Feel free to comment below!↓↓↓