3 Practical lessons living in Singapore taught me about Self-Care

It’s funny how time flies so fast especially when you enjoy what you’re doing or where you are, isn’t it? For us, that’s what really happened. What originally planned as to be a year or two of finding opportunity here in Singapore turned out to be a decade where we our little family made it as its playground.

Truly the opportunities this country has given us has been great and with the guidance of the One above, our lives seems to be really planned out well. We really are just grateful of everything now.

Since Singapore would be celebrating its 56th National Day soon, I thought of doing this article. So what has Singapore taught me in the past decade and how could it be related to Self-Care?

Singapore is also well known as the “little red dot” and it isn’t called that way for no reason. If you try looking in a globe like my daughter’s, I tell you it really is easy to miss that “little red dot” as it really is small if you try finding it without any hint of where it is in the planet.

What’s amazing though is even as one of the smallest nation, it was able to climb up to the top and be recognised as one of the First World Countries in the world. So what set them apart from the others? They for sure aren’t a rich country when it comes to natural resources. I tell you, even the water that flows in our faucet is imported mostly from Malaysia.

If you noticed how young their nation is, you’ll be surprised that it’s age is fairly young and just the same age of most of your folks, which means before that time, they aren’t this kind of nation we all see on top.

So what changed and how did it happened? Below are some of my points which I like to point out that everyone can do too to ourselves if we apply as well. If a nation with little natural resources can be successful, so can you!

Putting Yourself First

Singapore as a Nation

If you didn’t know, Singapore was formerly part of Malaysia. It was due to Political unrest and economic differences that resulted in Singapore’s expulsion from Malaysia which let to Singapore’s independence on August 9, 1965. It is after that when the famous nation’s founding father Lee Kuan Yew took leadership. And truly despite its lack of natural resources, it found its way on how to succeed by focusing on what its nation have and making the most out of it and succeed.

How it can relate to you

Most of us usually play part martyr when it comes to taking care of our loved ones. We do this despite knowing the fact that we also need caring for ourselves. Disregarding this fact may have a long time effect not only in our relationship with our loved ones. Not only do we deep unvalued but also feel regretful of not being able to do what we want.

By putting yourself first in all things that you do, you are able to fill up your cup and be fully ready to give to others. There won’t be any remorse of regret in the end that you aren’t able to do thing you wanted. You’ll also be fully honest not only with your loved ones but with yourself that you’re able to give your care and love with the best version of yourself.

Discipline

Singapore as a Nation

There’s no secret that Singapore is also known as “The Fine City”. Not “fine” as in good quality but “fine” as in needing to pay for doing various things forbidden. Yes, and in Singapore, even as simple as chewing a gum is forbidden. Puzzling right, especially if you grew up in a different country where chewing gum is usually done innocently just like having eating some candy.

It may have been one of the hardest days of any Singaporean to live in when most of the things they got used to doing is suddenly forbidden but look at the nation now after just 50+ years and what it has been able to achieve. Truly those sacrifices have paid off well more than they expected and what’s greater than that is what the generation of today are able to experience and enjoy. It’s like giving a gift to your granddaughters/sons for them to live in a safe environment and a nation which they can depend on.

How it can relate to you

As simple as this word can be, it can be one of the hardest thing to do. Those early mornings you wake up just to make sure you are able to do your routine exercise before the whole household starts its chaos not only helps you keep your mind at peace but also knowing that you’ve given yourself a portion of your time in your day is something admirable.

Wanting to achieve something isn’t just about having the right resources but having that discipline within you to do whatever it takes. Life is full of hurdles and hardships and it’s only if you have the discipline to continue that will give you the motivation to continue. Without that, it’s very easy to give-up half way and never succeed.

Goals are achievable when you have the mindset

Singapore as a Nation

When Singapore got its independence, it has its goal in hand and a mindset that they can succeed. It didn’t matter if their nation lacked natural resources —they made sure to have financial resources to cover up for that and be able to import all the things the nation needs, it didn’t matter if their nation is once filled up with gangs — they made sure to change that and be disciplined enough to be recognised as one of the countries with the lowest crime rate in the world, and lastly, it didn’t matter if their nation is small — by focusing on what they have (their location) they are able to have the world’s busiest cargo seaports, be a leader in exporting electronics manufacturing and machinery, have highly driven financial services and tourism.

How it can relate to you

Well, you are you. And you aren’t just any person, you are as great and important as those well-known people in history and today IF YOU FOCUS ON YOURSELF, WHAT YOU HAVE AND YOUR GOAL.

Most people think almost immediately about the difficulties they “might” face along way, or their lack of this and that as a reason for not pursuing their goal. I tell you now, it isn’t any other person, thing, or circumstance that’s stopping you but you.

Find a way to change that mindset and start believing in yourself and everything is achievable. Perhaps start with simple things like being able to wake up early every morning to click in some “me-time” that you could either use as a time to just sip your “hot coffee” in peace or even go for a walk or run. Starting with small steps and small achievements can give you motivation in doing bigger things and bring out that confidence that you can do it because you are you!