How it started

This was me 4 years ago.

All smiles in the outside and trying to hold how incredibly overwhelming this big leap of faith I’m about to embark.

Choosing to be a stay-at-home mom, especially nowadays usually causes other people to raise their eyebrows.

After all, having a degree, the opportunity to earn, and promoting women’s equality…then you’ll leave.

It wasn’t an easy decision, but I know it’s the right thing to do. Not only for my family but for myself as well.

I swear, I wasn’t one of those who envisioned themselves being a stay-at-home mom. I even said once, that I’ll never be one. haha. But we’ll never know where life will take us. Our helper decided she wants to go back already and we aren’t too keen that we’ll be able to get another one that we’ll be able to trust our daughters with. Together with fear of how we’ll be able to sustain our finances and judgement from others (family and friends included), it was our (my hubby and I’s) strong desire to prioritize our daughter’s well-being and well-being of our family.

As much as I’d want to boast how smooth sailing this transition went, it’s quite the opposite of what really happened. It turns out, that being your own boss isn’t easy at all as well. Your discipline is well tested along with how your little ones test your patience. Add to that having the freedom of time yet have unending chores to do all day. And lastly, of course, feeling stressed and overwhelmed by how busy you’ve been, being on your toes the whole day, yet lying down in bed to sleep still feeling unfulfilled.

It felt like a lifetime since those times and here I am now, with a bit more independent children, still busy keeping our household intact and organized. Throughout the past years, I’ve learned how to strategies and make things work without compromising our finances, making sure to make time for everyone without feeling the need to cut myself into pieces just to keep up with them, and lastly, make time for myself.

I know that I’m not alone in this situation. Being married is truly bliss. Having children makes you face this thriller motherhood crossroads. If you experienced a mid-life crisis in your, this kind of situation is quite similar. It’s just more delicate as it doesn’t only focus on you but another person you’re responsible for, your child/ren.

Having experienced all the ups and downs of being a stay-at-home mom, I’d like to share with you some of the wisdom I’ve learned throughout the years. I truly believe that no motherhood journey is the same but there are for sure a lot of similarities we could all learn from and customize for it to fit on how we groom our own family.