Great Self-Care Ideas everyone should know this coming Holidays

We all tend to go all out especially during this last month of the year. With everyone’s spirits on high mode, Christmas carols singing, decorations making everywhere pretty even without snow, who wouldn’t?! The last month of the year is truly special to each and every one, no matter what age you are in.

For children, it would be the gifts that excite them, for mid-aged ones, it would be the unending parties, and for parents and everyone who’s been working their ass whole-year, it’s the Christmas bonus! With all these, we all tend to get too carried away. Mostly, it’s either splurging way too much on our pockets, for others eating way too much and for others, it may be both.

Let this year be the start of maintaining that discipline. It’s time to stop getting over-excited and forget what you’ve worked hard over the past 11 months. Spend this Holiday season without regretting any actions we do during this last month of the year.

Here’s some tips to make sure you enjoy without getting overboard than what you should have:

Staying Healthy

I totally understand this dilemma. We’ve been associating food with any celebration we celebrate. This is when we tend to forget all that diet or specifically time that cheat-day we’ve been waiting for. With or without the Pandemic, we all still make sure to celebrate this Holidays particularly Christmas in a joyous way with food.

While calorie counting may not be the best move to do, wouldn’t it be easier to associate the colourful Holidays with your plate? By making sure you incorporate fruits, vegetables, and healthy ingredients in your Holiday meals, you’ll be sure that though the calories you intake maybe more than your usual but still in a controlled way instead of getting all out.

Being happy with food isn’t always about the quantity we get to eat but how much we savour and enjoy them in every bite. Eating doesn’t only mean loving the smell, texture and taste of it but knowing that once it enters your body, your body will really benefit from it.

And last but not the least, remembering that there’s always tomorrow to enjoy more eating will help you eat in the right proportion instead of over-eating in just one day.

Tracking our Spendings

Another important thing most of us gets carried away during this last month of the year is the way we spend. Don’t let splurging too much make its way and leave you making a deep hole in your pockets. While money is something I don’t promote in this blog as a driving force for people, I do acknowledge its importance in our life.

Having money is great and important but we shouldn’t let it rule over our lives to the point where our good intentions be turned the wrong way. This season of giving, make sure to give only up to the best of your ability. Spending way too much than you can afford just so you can give is being boastful already and not in anyway good.

It is always the thought that counts and simple, thoughtful, and consciously-thought gifts makes it more worth than giving extravagant ones that only symbolises monetary value but misses the real value of why you gave it.

Getting enough Rest

No matter what age you’re in, Self-Care is a must. As our society slowly comes back to life and get togethers that has been missed out the past years has come back as well, let’s remember to party in moderation.

I get it, you’ve missed each other’s company. And yes, talking face-to-face can never be replaced with day-to-day virtually talking to each other. Yet, planning to make sure your body also gets the rest it needs is a must.

Don’t let your body get overwhelmed and burnt-out just so you could show yourself in parties. Get togethers means enjoying the moment and not coming there half hearted because all you can think of is getting back home and dozing off.

Make sure to plan your gatherings and get that ample rest your body needs.

TAKEAWAY

Happiness from Within

With all these joyous celebrations, it is easy to forget the true meaning of why we celebrate Christmas in the first place. For others, it may simply be a long holiday, but for like us, Christians’s, it is the day that marks the birth of Jesus, the Son of God, our Saviour.

That alone should be celebrated without the need of any glitz and glamour that we have been used to. This should be enough to give us peace we needed in our life, and the happiness from within that our Great Saviour has been born.

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6 Proven Ways to Fight with Stress and Anxiety

Life nowadays has been tougher than ever. Not only are we faced with the usual demand to cope us with our responsibilities. With the Pandemic still affecting more and more each day, all we could do is to learn, and learn fast I mean on how to cope with the Stress and Anxiety this brings.

Not only is our health compromised but most of all our mental being. Thinking how your source of income is stable enough to withstand this critical times that’s been hurting much economy and every industry you could think of but also not being able to have that rest you need for yourself despite being most of the time at home.

Despite everything that’s happening around us, it’s important to focus on the good things. Appreciating the small things you have can help you get through this gruelling times. Self-Care is at most needed and by that, I don’t mean going for a mani/pedi or having a facial at a spa. What I mean is taking care of what matters the most within you which is your mental well-being and health. When both of that are in a good place, everything follows.

Here are 6 Ways that could help you cope with Stress and Anxiety:

Acknowledge you feelings and take good care of your mental and emotional health. As adults with kids under our wing to take responsibility with, we often forget how important it is to take care of ourselves. Concentrating on having the basic needs such as food, clothing, and shelter doesn’t seem enough nowadays as our mental and emotional health is deeply being tested.

Taking time for yourself has never been needed. Learn more about Tips on how to Maintain Mental Wellness here. If you are a mom, then read this too!

Taking breaks from social media. There’s always been two ways social media can affect us. It’s either you get inspired to do something about yourself but most often, admit it or not, we feel he opposite every time we look at our social media feed.

Know that there’s also two ways to correct that mindset: It’s by either not looking at them so you save yourself from feeling bad and instead settle looking at inspiring posts that motivate you, OR change your outlook and actually feel happy for other people’s success and for them looking great. You’ll be surprise how the this two simple change in mindset can affect your life.

Limit watching stressful news. Yes, I know. Watching or listening to news especially nowadays is very important. With government rules constantly changing as rapidly as how the virus mutate, we all need to be up-to-date with what is happening to our community. Despite this, it’s also important to know that you really don’t need to hear all this news all day long.

The more we hear/ read/watch depressing news, the more we unknowingly accept that negative energy to our lives. Who do you think would feel motivated with their day ahead when all you hear are how many new cases there have been and how many deaths has there been in the last 24 hours. NOBODY!

So, keep well-informed but not so much that your emotional and mental health is affected as well. Save yourself from that stress. We may be in a Pandemic but life is still a beautiful thing to live with. Don’t waste your time stressing on things beyond your control.

Take care of your body. The time has come where you really have no excuse but your own laziness to take care of yourself. With most still recommended to stay at home, use that time wisely.

  • Living on microwavable food as you don’t have time to cook? Here’s the time you can actually use your nice kitchen and make some healthy food.
  • Use those precious time you’ve been usually stuck in traffic or commuting to office to catch-up on more sleep or exercise.
  • Chasing always to reach home before bedtime just so you can put your kids to sleep? Fret no more, read a book with them and have some giggling time!

Take care of your body by eating healthy, doing some exercise to stretch those muscles you’ve barely know is there, and have a good laugh!

Unwind. Of course it’s always great to be able to fly somewhere to stay away from the hustle and bustle of our daily routine. It is important though to understand that that isn’t the only way to unwind. You don’t always need to run away from your life to get some peace. Why not live your life peacefully so everyday so you’ll always have that unwinding time.

Give time for you to reflect on the good things you have. Writing affirmations, journalling, meditating, doing yoga, or as simple as doing deep breathes can help you relax from the comfort of your own home sitting in your favourite couch.

Stay connected with others. No man is an island. Catching up with family and friends and knowing they are doing okay as well is very comforting. You don’t only make other people feel loved but you yourself feel great for reaching out and giving time for your loved ones.

Having great company and being around people that actually makes you feel happy is so comforting that it makes your heart at bliss.

Last but not the least is something we should be very vigilant about especially this days. As much as we don’t want to be in this situation, it’s important to know about it and be prepared in case it happens.

Know what to do if you are sick and how to get treatment. Nothing is more helpful to keep that mind in peace than knowing what to do in case the worst scenario happens. With Covid-19 lurking around, having the right information needed like who’s the healthcare provider or Medical Team to contact. Learning and understanding the benefits and risks of doing self care treatment is also a must.

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Why Mental Health Awareness is so Important

Mental Health is one of the topics people have been avoiding for so long. Why? Well, we may live in the 20th Century already but still most people’s mindset when you say Mental Health still believes that means that we’re talking about a crazy individual or those who really lost their minds and can’t function well in the society.

With that mindset of the most, people who find themselves in hard times dealing with their Mental Health are forced to keep it to themselves or even try to ignore this important aspect in their life that should actually be faced head on and given priority talking about.

This Pandemic have surely shook all of our lives and added much more anxiety and stress to our already busy lives. The struggle to have a steady income and stable job have been increased drastically. With everyone being asked to stay home as part of safety measures to somehow flatten the curve of Covid-19 spread, the opportunities to find jobs have been more challenging. And while working from home can be a blessing, that thin line between work and home life have been pretty non-existent and that can cause more issues.

These challenges needed to be faced no matter what to survive. With this, the importance to pay attention to mental health is essential.

How do we test our Mental Health?

If you’re one of those who still aren’t comfortable talking to someone about your issues, know that there’s tons of free online mental health tests that you can take from the comfort of your home. Here are some of them:

Test your Anxiety – Mental Health America

Test your Depression – Mental Health America

Test your Stress – Be Mindful

For Parents to Test your child’s Mental Health – Mental Health America

And if you still find yourself reluctant to do such online tests, well the easies way to do it is to be totally honest with yourself and ask these series of questions:

Am I well and coping with what is happening in my life today (good and bad)? – YES or NO

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If your answer is NO, then answer the next question.

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Am I feeling stressed and more anxious nowadays than before? YES or NO

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If your answer is YES, then answer the next question

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Am I feeling mentally unwell? YES or NO

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If you’ve reached this point and your answer is still YES, then hopefully you sum up some courage to reach out to someone who can help you more with your Mental Health

If you find yourself in good Mental Health, that’s great to hear. You might want be interested to learn more How to maintain that Wellbeing for sustainability.

I hope this you find this article informative and helpful especially during this trying times. Know that we are all in the same page when it comes to trying to survive this challenging times and with a positive mindset, I’m sure we can all surpass this difficult times.

With this, let me end this article with motivational quotes.

Hopefully this can lighten up your day.

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Tips on how to Maintain Mental Wellness

Have you owned a car or bike or anything that needs maintenance for it to function longer and utilise it to its maximum usage. That may be an easy thing to do guaranteed you own whatever that thing that you have that needs maintenance, how about you don’t?

I’m asking as you might be reading this article without even knowing the how your Mental Health is. This isn’t shocking as we mostly want to be ahead of things that we sometimes forget the basic things that needed to be acknowledged first. Read more about Why Mental Health is Important here.

Having your Mental Wellness well taken care of is especially in this trying times is essential. It is needed so you can be more productive in your work which mainly is your bread and butter to have the basic needs to live. Without you being able to function well at work, you won’t be able to earn and buy the things you need.

Unfortunately, living a good life isn’t only about having material things you need at hand. Life can be full of trials no matter how rich or broke you are and no matter what circumstance in life you are in. It is important to know that being able to cope with these challenges that you need to face is part of your mental wellness as well.

But how do you make sure your mind is in good disposition? Here are some tips to help you maintain your Mental Wellness:

It pays to Plan your day well

All of us are given 24 hours in a day to do the things we need as well as rest. Your productivity always rely on how you plan your day. It doesn’t matter whether you are a SAHM, working mom, single mom–everyone of us have responsibilities and its up to us how we use our time wisely to be able to cope and deliver with them all.

It’s important to have a plan listed down whether in a planner, normal paper or on your phone’s notes. It keeps you organised and keeps you from forgetting things to do.

Another is to be mindful of your actions. If you really want to finish a lot in a day, and tick as much as you can from your phone, the maiana habit won’t be helpful. Acting head-on on your plans is the way to go.

Lastly, comparing to others your progress. Not only does it not help you in any way to do what you need to do, it also lowers your self-confidnece instead of being grateful for the small achievements you’ve done.

Have a break

As much as you want to maximise your time to be able to do more, know that you’re human and you need rest. Believe it or not, this won’t hurt your time table but instead give you the boost you need to finish more than you anticipate.

Practice a Healthy Lifestyle

No matter what type of job you’ll need an able body to function. By eating healthy and doing exercise, you’ll be assured to have a body that’s strong enough to withstand any type of job you do.

Positive Mindset

Life may be full of challenges but it’s how we react to every circumstances in life that differs. Having a positive disposition in life not only helps you lessen the stress but also gives you the advantage to be more of who you really are. Procrastinating over something you don’t have any control with is just a waste of time.

This proven study is true that even Mental Institutions like this one in Singapore concur on it.

I hope you find these tips helpful in maintaining your Mental Wellness. Remember that you are important and you must make time for you. It’s only when your cup is full that you can give more to your love ones.

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5 Tips for moms to get back their Self Confidence with the help of Self-Care

Parenthood is one of the most memorable moment that a married couple could have. I for one know without a doubt that the effect my daughter had to my whole being, in all aspects of life, is priceless.

While most of this is a positive effect, we can’t deny there are some that isn’t as well. Somehow along the road of becoming a mother, not all things turns out great. When our priority changes and our world becomes our children, most moms often find themselves lost within their own self.

We tend to see more of this kind of blog for first time moms but in reality, even if a mom is a second or third time mom, most haven’t gotten back their self-confidence or better yet, be at least their same self or find their own identity and not just as a mom. Or worst, those articles that encourages mother’s to be confident when moms are mostly born with maternal instincts. What most moms do have problem though is the confidence of finding their own identity again after being a mom.

Here’s 5 tips every mom could use to bring that confidence back:

1.Learn to overcome the Bad Mommy Syndrome

Focusing too much for your child’s welfare, way too much that you often label yourself a bad mom for choosing to do something you love is not good. How often do you feel guilty for doing something for yourself? Have you ever given any thought that by feeling guilty every time you choose to give-in to your own indulgence also impairs that confidence you’ve once have in yourself in doing things that you love?

Standing up for yourself to do what you love doing takes some guts to do. Don’t let your motherhood take away from you that courage you’ve once had in you but instead, let your motherhood add to your experience to become more confident in doing things.

Your preferences, likes, and hobbies may be different from what you have before but you are still you. You just need to ignite once again that goodness in you.

2.Stop caving in to advice

Motherhood is a tribe where you’re always get’s unsolicited parenting advice no matter if you want it or not. Believe it or not, all of them offer their advice with utmost sincerity for your betterment. The reason why some advices won’t be good for you though is because each one of us live different lives with different circumstances.

One may advice that is’t good for your children to sleep in another room for them to learn independence at a young age. This may be good training for children, if only you live in a house with rooms available for every member of your family. If you’re like us, well, we still co-sleep our daughters (currently 7 and 6 yrs old) not only because that’s our preference but because we also can afford to rent a room, instead of a whole house. Get me?

This decision has been made by me and my husband and it’s something I won’t be shy to talk about. This decision has helped my family align our finances the way we want it to be. Having that confidence to defy other’s advice would not only help you live your life the way you want it to be but also be able to adapt this habit in every aspect of your life.

3. Don’t be shy to take notes

We might have used “mom-brain” more often that we should but most of the times, we are just too shy to admit that our brain isn’t working as sharp as it was. I’m not sure if there’s really any scientific connection of giving birth to our brain function and getting old. What I’m pretty sure though is that one reason why we get forgetful because as we get older, our responsibilities gets bigger as well.

When you have your first child, you would always get a routine fixed on your head. Both of you would follow that routine without fail. Then comes your second and third one. Oh! And add to that soccer practice, ballet, and you sold your other car. So now you need to drop by your hubby’s office to pick him up at 6pm. Oh wow that responsibility quickly escalated and I’m sure your brain would surely give up on you anytime soon if you don’t pick-up that pen and paper (or better yet your phone) to make a to do list.

Decluttering your mind by taking notes isn’t something shameful to do. It helps actually boosts your confidence in doing the things you need to do because you know that that’s what you should be doing at this certain time of the day. Not only do you look organised but you feel it as well. Read more on how decluttering helps you HERE.

3.Stop being shy to speak up

Motherhood is one of the toughest job. One shouldn’t feel belittled whenever they ask for help when needed. Instead feel confident that you’re able to acknowledge your weakness and find a way/ solution to address it. While there isn’t a right or wrong way in parenting, asking other’s help to be able to accomplish more as a mother or even just give yourself some break is important.

Let’s accept it, two pairs of hands and feet can be better than one. We don’t live in the medieval period where women’s main role is to keep the household intact. Aside from nowadays more women are joining the work force or rather have the option if they want to pursue a career, we see most households with men helping around the house as well despite their wives being Stay At Home Moms. We’re all living in the same home anyway, so responsibilities should also be shared.

The catch is, most men aren’t born with the same will as women. Most times, men are more than willing to help, they are just waiting for someone to tell them to do so. So women, it’s actually up to you to build up that confidence and speak up what you need help with. Need 10 minutes to take a bath? Ask your partner/ hubby to watch over your kids for 10 minutes. You might not come back as what you expect (snacks and toys everywhere to clean) but hey, you’re able to take a bath in peace! And besides, snacks and toys would still be everywhere anyways, so why not add that self-love on the side and enjoy a bath!

4.Hiding your emotions

This is actually tied up with #3 but for the sake of highlighting emotions, we had it in a separate humber. Women are born more emotional than men. As cliche as it sounds, getting married though still means you get to live your life with another human being with different background, preferences, etc. This causes friction for someone to hold back their words and emotions which often results to not showing their own true self and hiding behind a persona that they know would be acceptable of their other half.

Doing this in the long run could potentially turn out to an outburst of kept feelings and emotions you’ve been hiding for years. Living with fear of not being accepted as who you are shouldn’t be the case when you find your partner in life. They should be the person who you can open up with no matter what and they in return accepts who you are.

Only with this are you able to be confident again and free yourself of any emotions you have and will have. Motherhood can bring out more emotions that you think you can feel. That surreal feeling of giving birth, the joy and pain of it, the happiness your child brings and the hardships you often do that goes unnoticed. That adds up! It’s not only how you look in the outside that matters, but what you feel in the inside as well. The peacefulness in your heart often resonates how people see you. No great make-up can hide the loneliness in your eyes if your heart is heavy.

5.Finding mutual happiness

When it comes to parenthood/ motherhood, we often push back our own happiness for our children. Even I to this day fall victim for this. And it frustrates me more as I know how and why it happens yet still let myself get controlled by it.

How many times have you been doing things for your children with a gritted teeth behind or a long to-do list behind your head that you kept on thinking how to accomplish yet here you are playing with your child for them to stay happy (cause that’s what parents do). Well, the truth is, no matter what age your child is, you should still be able to be control of yourself. No, I don’t mean letting your child cry and get hungry so you can fold laundry and tick that off your checklist. Believe it or not, children are wiser that we thought and they’re great followers too!

So put those perspectives into good use! Make a routine that would work for both of you. Little ones tend to sleep more so make sure to use those time pockets wisely. Their morning nap could be used to clean up a bit of the house or yourself or eat at peace. Afternoon naps could be used to catch up on your Zzzz’s as well or spend some quality time with other members of the family. Remember though that all this can be done by putting down that culprit “phone” of yours. hahaha.

Create an invisible line to make sure both you and your child know your limits. Learn to say “NO” to them without feeling bad about doing so. As I’ve decided to embark on this journey of blogging, my time as a full-time SAHM has surely become less despite my responsibilities (chores) didn’t. Yet, on times when I’m able to fully follow a routine with my daughters, I’m able to keep up with everything I’m juggling with yet still be able to keep them happy for spending time with them without being distracted physically(doing other chores at the same time) or mentally(thinking of other stuff to do).

It is only with this that both you and your child could be happily living. Giving up on things you want to do in life for others is a short-lived dream. Learn to manage your time, know your priorities and you’ll find a way to do all of them without compromising the other. Sit time, take time to think through your game plan. That’s more strategic than just diving into your day and just accept the chaos of life when there is for a fact a solution to it.

Your happiness is your family’s(husband and children) happiness too. You are the light of your home. Whatever emotions and feelings you have within you resonates to them. You can feel the tension at home when you’re not your real self because you’re frustrated of not being able to do things you want to do just to fulfil what other’s want you to do. By addressing yourself first (always), you’re sure to be able to give them, your family, the best version of you and best love and care you could ever give.

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