When watching movies becomes a great Self-Care

Most of you know me as a Self-Care mom mentor, others as a mom who loves nature trips, well, I know nobody’s asking but just so you know, I or we as a family also love watching movies as a way to relax and bond. The thing with watching movies is most people associate it with being a couch potato, well, not all. Another thing is how you choose the movies you watch. No matter what explanation you give, what you watch can affect you, your mindset, and your mood, so better choose wisely.

I was truly inspired by the last film we watched last Friday night and can’t help not to share it with you. Not because of the story or advertising or whatever but the lesson I got from the movie itself. Plus, just to relate it with Self-Care, these are the movies you should be watching. haha.. Inspiring movies that could make you think of your own life and how to make it better. Being a couch potato doesn’t seem a bad idea if you look at it that way.

Anyways, the movie is called American Underdog. This movie is an inspirational true story of NFL’s 2-time MVP, Kurt Warner. There isn’t a better movie to watch and get inspired if you’re having those days where you think your dreams seems impossible to reach.

I’m not an NFL fan nor do I understand the game itself. Growing up in the Philippines, we’re more into basketball. Anyways, I sure was able to understand the mechanics of Football fast enough so I can cheer along during the movie itself. haha

What I love with this movie is that from the very start, it’s been laid for the audience loud and clear how it felt like a thread going to a needle would it be for anyone who would dream of being a NFL player. For Kurt, he’s young enough to understand the hurdles and wasn’t scared at all to conquer those setbacks and fears despite knowing them. Instead, he worked his way up and did what was supposed to be done.

While doing all the drills and making sure his body was on shape to be on a team and be able to play seems still not be enough for him to get his dream easily, he says this line, “Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do, until you can do what you want to do”. And I think a lot of us could resonate with him. Every successful person you see and admire could relate to this and you just need to have patience and wait for your time.

As much as I want to re-tell you the whole story, I don’t think I could give justice on how beautiful the film is and besides, I’m not much of a good storyteller, so….I hope you find time to watch it yourself!

I won’t leave you hanging though…here’s some lines I loved and want to share with you all and hope inspires you and get you motivated as well.

I am a work in progress

If this is your dream, you have to fight for it.

Life is not about what you can achieve, it is what you can become

Character translates anywhere.

Don’t get too comfortable.

And these lines as well to inspire you to be more grateful of your partner-in-life, your hubby as life wouldn’t be as great as it is without a great team.

Winning doesn’t always feel like winning, huh?

It doesn’t mean anything if you don’t have someone to share it with.

We did this, We did this together.

I’m not sure if you felt my emotions while watching this movie with the way I write about this but I’d like to tell you that yes, I cried, and cried a lot. Not because I was sad but because of how proud I am of how he was able to accomplish his dream and inspired not to give up on mine as well.

I’d like to hear from you as well on how you find American Underdog as well. I hope you write them in the comments and let this momma movie buff friendship begin! Lols!

Anyways, if your in the mood for more inspiring movies, I’d greatly recommend these:

Moneyball

We are Marshall

Coach Carter

The Blind Side

The Longest Yard

The Express

42

Trouble with the Curve

When the Game Stands Tall

If you’re wondering why all of them are sports related??? Well, doesn’t a winning game give more excitement to a story?And I love when that happens! haha. I’d also want to share my/our own way of reaching a summit. Hope you get to read this trip of ours!

I hope you all a great Chinese New Year and keep yourselves safe from the Pandemic jolts! More inspiring blogs to come! Lastly, just so you know, I’ve got a workshop coming out called OWN YOUR TIME. This is specifically made for moms who can’t seem to find their rhythm with time. Attending this workshop would surely bring back the confidence in you in tacking your goals as you’ll find you have more time to do more than you can imagine, and take note, doing it happily and not with stress😉 Make sure to REGISTER NOW!

Learning more about how to be a Vegan

When it comes to transitioning your life for the better, you’d be surprised how an eye-opener it is as something as simple as a one word, “VEGAN” can have different meaning and specifications.

In my journey as an advocate for Self-Care in MommyWithAGoal, I’ve met a handful of great women who are vegan. Not a new thing right? While I might not be committing to being one anytime soon, it got me curious.

And guess what, there’s a whole Vegan world apparently! What’s amazing is that what my narrow mind knows about vegan such as someone who’ll only have salad all day, everyday, isn’t that at all. Just the thought of having salad every dinner makes me think twice already. Get me?! That’s how narrow-minded I was.

Let’s start with the misconception of vegan being the same as vegetarian. If this made you frown and read again what you just read just so you could understand clearly what I just said, then clearly, you’re at the same level as I am in knowing these things. haha! Not to worry though, we’ve got the internet to get more info.😆 To save you some research time, here’s the summary:

Vegans avoid consuming:

  • meat
  • poultry
  • fish and shellfish
  • eggs
  • dairy products
  • honey
  • insects
  • rennet, gelatin, and other types of animal protein
  • stock or fats that derive from animals

Vegetarians avoid consuming:

  • meat, such as beef, pork, and game
  • poultry, such as chicken, turkey, and duck
  • fish and shellfish
  • insects
  • rennet, gelatin, and other types of animal protein
  • stock or fats that derive from animal slaughter

However, do consume byproducts such as:

  • eggs
  • dairy products, such as milk, cheese, and yogurt
  • honey

Interesting right?? As simple as that, you’ve already gained more knowledge in a few seconds of reading! haha.. As this article focuses on being vegan, here’s what I found out on my research. There’s different kinds of Vegan! What I love about this is that realising that I can be a vegan too! Read along to know more if you can be too…

Kinds of Vegan

Dietary Vegan – No meat, dairy, or eggs; however, not focused on animal-free clothing or products

Ethical Vegan – No meat, diary, or eggs and avoids animal-based products like leather.

Green Vegan – Similar as an Ethical Vegan, but with a different reason: to reduce carbon footprint.

Raw Vegan – A strictly plant-based diet with food that hasn’t been cooked over 105-115F (40-14C).

Plant-based Vegan – No meat, diary, eggs, or processed foods.

VB6 – A strict vegan diet before 6pm, eats whatever they want (within moderation) after 6pm.

Paris Vegan – Eats vegan daily, but vegetarian when dining out or with friends/family.

Weekday/weekend vegan – Chooses specific days, such as weekdays or weekends, to avoid meat, dairy or eggs.

Virtually Vegan – No meat, and avoids dairy & eggs as much as possible.

Travel Vegan – Eats vegan diet daily, but experiments with local cuisine when traveling.

So there you have it! I hope this gives you a bit to think about your diet and how you consume food in general.

I’d like to end this article with a thought I just happened to have while writing this:

We consume food as it is a necessity, but what we forget to realise is the food our body needs isn’t based on the quantity for our body to function to its capacity but by the quality of food we intake. May this be an eye-opener for you, and me, to make wise food choices as we munch our way to living better and healthy.

Jeannine Paulsen Lirio-Javier, MommyWithAGoal

Learn more on how you can make wise food choices by not being fooled by “Healthy Disguised” food options you can find around.

Lastly, know that transitioning a lifestyle is a journey. It’s not like how Thanos does in the Marvel movie wherein in a snap, everything will change as you wish it would. It is important to enjoy the journey and have patience while doing it. Take it easy on yourself and until you reach your goal of being a Vegan.

It is also a big help you have a great support group which can guide and motivate you along the way.

A New Year, Are you ready for a New You??

I was quite hesitant to use this title because I don’t want to make misconceptions about this article, but why not??

Most of us associate New Year’s with hopes of being a new person. Not that we’re changing our faces or names but a new perspective in life. That’s what it should be actually as that’s how we should be doing each year.

But how do we change in just a day?? Well, it may not be as instant as what we are used to now a days but believe me, every little change you do in your life would matter if you just constantly do it everyday.

Reading a book per se is one way of doing it. This book I’ll recommend ain’t a new one. You might even heard it a lot of times already and even read it. If you had, then I hope you got the gist of it like I did and had your life transformed the way you want it. If not, then hang on for the ride! You’ll be reaching your own stars, just like how you’ve specifically wished for!

We are always told to as a child to dream. It’s the only thing everyone can do, no matter what circumstance in life we’re in now, that’s sky’s the limit! Cause why not, it’s your dream and all you’ll need is your imagination, mind, and yourself. It something personal where you don’t need to think of what others dream of, just yours. You don’t care how you’ll be able to reach them or what does it takes you to reach them.

Well, that’s how The Secret by Rhonda Byrne has influenced my life since 2008 when my then bf-now hubby gave me as a Christmas gift. I can still vaguely remember that scene where he send me off in the bus terminal as I made my way back home to the province to celebrate Christmas with my family. He gave me the book in a sealed small paper bag.

photo from Amazon

I’m not the kind of person who loves receiving gifts actually as I’m not a gift giver as well. haha. (I’m just a fair person) so when he gave his gift as a surprise, all I can give in return is a kiss and hug. haha! As the bus left the terminal and I was left alone, I hurriedly opened his gift. Not knowing to expect, I was actually surprised he gave me a book. haha.

First of all, he’s a self-confessed NOT-A-BOOK person. The only books he read are those school books required when he’s still studying. Second is the title of the book, The Secret. Daunting for me when I saw it first not knowing what it is about. I haven’t heard of this book before despite loving to read books (my dad’s book collection which are the ones I usually read are actually more of the 90s famous thriller ones John Grisham kind) So having this kind of Self-development book is such a new thing for me and thrilled to have it!

My 1.5 hr trip went so quick as I got too engrossed with the book. I actually almost missed my stop! haha.. As I finished the last few pages at home, I knew it would be our topic in messages as talk back and forth throughout the holidays while we spend our time with our own families.

As the New Year of 2009 came in, we knew that our lives would be turned around. Yes! You know that inner confidence you didn’t knew you had inside and the fears of uncertainty quietly slips under the bed, too shy to come out due to your overwhelming attraction of the universe that doesn’t want me/us to be stopped.

Truly enough, our lives was turned upside down that year as despite the world going through recession that time, we braved our way to finding new and better life adventures and career. That’s been almost 10 years ago and loaded with tons of mostly highs and some lows in life, we got married, had 2 beautiful daughters, and have quitted my 9-5 job to have more time taking care of our family. Despite the very high cost of living here in Singapore, I can say that we’re among the blessed ones to be living beyond what our dreams could imagine as a single income family.

As I learned the the twist and turns of managing wisely my time as a Stay-At-Home-Mom, I now devote my time to something I advocate the most, Self-Care. As a matter of fact, I just surpassed a dream of mind that I’ve been having for sometime, read more on my last article, on how I Shared A Christmas. Okay, too much storytelling and back to this book review.

This book had made waves when it came our in the early 2000’s. A Self-help book that’s been too much talked about that they even made it into a film/ short documentary. Find any coach or mentor that advocates on self-development and they’ll surely include this book on one of your must-read.

This book focuses on the Law of Attraction and helps you change the mindset most of us grew up believing in as that’s what the society feeds us. The title “The Secret” is so captivating that it makes anyone who sees it wonder what could be in it. As a human, we all got the urge to be more curious on things especially if it’s said as a secret, don’t we. That’s the catch!

This empowering book encourages everyone to visualise themselves reaching whatever their hearts desires. It gives you that boost of motivation you’ve never even though you’ve have in the first place which makes it amazing. You just go with the flow of life as the universe seems to always be at your side making you afloat nearer and nearer to your goals, one at a time.

What I love about this though is despite it encouraging you to reach your goals, it’s strategically done the “good way”. You know, not those easy money thing or those that lead you to the wrong direction of life just to attain material wealth.

The principle you attract through the learnings you get gravitates you to give back more to others, find gratitude in small and big wins that come your way, and mainly to focus your energy to a mindset that makes you think of the good things despite any hurdles that come your way. As they say, life can be full of bumps and it’s only the way you react on every bump that makes a difference.

With this kind of mindset, no matter what circumstance is thrown into your life, you’ll always find the good on it and eventually you’ll find yourself in a good place no matter what. And you know what happens when you’re in that good disposition in life?? You do good too! So there’s no way any minute of your life would go wasted on things you’ll spend your time now and regret afterwards.

With all the great things I have to say to this book, I must also mention one controversy this book had been hit the most. Yes, I’m talking about its religious beliefs. My take on that would be from a perspective of a person who lived in Singapore, one of the most multi-cultural countries in the world, for about a decade. There’s nothing respect on each other’s belief that can’t be settled and have peace on.

Singaporeans who’s composed of 3 major nationalities, Chinese, Indians, and Malay. All of them having different beliefs and totally different cultures. But hey, see how Singapore prospers? How do they show respect to each other? Well, simply giving way to each other’s needs. Let’s take holidays and festivities for example. We all celebrate and enjoy Chinese New Year, Eid al-Fitr, Diwali, and Christmas. How cool is that!

So that’s it! If you are looking for a great book to read and am thinking to turn your life for the better this 2022, I truly recommend The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.

A Happy New Year to all!!

This post is a part of Book Marathon 2022 by https://outsetbooks.com

Great ways to Speed-up Cleaning before New Year

It’s the time of the year again! I’m not talking about Christmas and New Year’s coming but making sure our home is tidy. It’s not that our home hasn’t been cleaned the whole year but as someone who have lived her whole life in tropical countries where Spring Season doesn’t come, well, December is my “Spring Cleaning” month.

Same as everyone does when they do “Spring Cleaning”, all that accumulated junk comes out of its shell and assessed if it’s worth keeping or you decide that life would be better off without it. There’s one thing I want to point out during this mission though.

Do not regret seeing the things you've bought that wasn't able to serve its purpose. Simply feel grateful that you're able to purchase that thing  and accept that life must go on without it. No feelings of resentment so you get to avoid that negative energy in your life and instead accept much more abundance. 

As an avid planner, I know that the only solution to avoid getting overwhelmed is to plan. You’ve got a month to do this cleaning and holiday to celebrate as well. If you’re lucky, you’ll also have some birthday celebrations in between which can make things more exciting.

Oh! I almost got forgot to mention your biggest supporters of keeping your home clean “your kiddos” *wink* are at home the whole time for Christmas School Holidays! With all that, are you almost feeling tired already? Hope not!

This simple guide though can help you get your cleaning easier and make you achieve that tidy home you want before the clock strikes for a new year.

What you’ll need

An open-mind. When it comes do spring cleaning, you need to keep your emotions intact and be open to giving away/ donating things that you don’t need or throwing out away things that’s malfunctioning already and can’t serve its purpose yet you’ve been still holding on at your home. Emotional attachment to material things is common. So don’t fret too much, it takes practice on letting go.

Stick with your plan. When it comes to spring cleaning, it’s easy to get too excited wanting to finish your task. Try to resist this temptation and simply stick to your plan. ONLY do what you have planned to do for that day. This will keep you relaxed, happy and be able to savour your accomplishment for that day, and be motivated to keep going for the next day. This would avoid exhaustion, overwhelmed, and quitting on the task you’ve started.

Get the whole family involved. You may not be getting joyful reaction from your family members especially if you have teenagers but know that this is a rewarding task. As part of the family, nothing is more rewarding than feeling part of it. Yes, that means on fun times and hard times (cleaning/tidying up your home).

Tips to speed cleaning

Stop cleaning one room at a time. Do chores that are connected to each other at a time for the whole house. Perfect example of this are the following:

✨Wiping windows, mirrors then washing curtains(changing curtains), rugs

✨Dusting cupboards, cabinets, then clean floor

✨Wash laundry, dry, organise clothing cabinets. You can also include your linen cabinet when doing this

✨Check pantry and fridge for expired food, clean fridge and cupboard

✨Lastly, as a rule of thumb, whenever you go from one room to the other, bring along with you whatever items you need to return to its correct place. This saves you from going back and forth.

There you have it! I hope this simple tips helps you do your cleaning before the New Year comes! I’m now off to my own home cleaning!

A Blessed Christmas to all! Hope you get inspired with my last article on the Best Christmas gift a Parent can give their children.

Great Self-Care Ideas everyone should know this coming Holidays

We all tend to go all out especially during this last month of the year. With everyone’s spirits on high mode, Christmas carols singing, decorations making everywhere pretty even without snow, who wouldn’t?! The last month of the year is truly special to each and every one, no matter what age you are in.

For children, it would be the gifts that excite them, for mid-aged ones, it would be the unending parties, and for parents and everyone who’s been working their ass whole-year, it’s the Christmas bonus! With all these, we all tend to get too carried away. Mostly, it’s either splurging way too much on our pockets, for others eating way too much and for others, it may be both.

Let this year be the start of maintaining that discipline. It’s time to stop getting over-excited and forget what you’ve worked hard over the past 11 months. Spend this Holiday season without regretting any actions we do during this last month of the year.

Here’s some tips to make sure you enjoy without getting overboard than what you should have:

Staying Healthy

I totally understand this dilemma. We’ve been associating food with any celebration we celebrate. This is when we tend to forget all that diet or specifically time that cheat-day we’ve been waiting for. With or without the Pandemic, we all still make sure to celebrate this Holidays particularly Christmas in a joyous way with food.

While calorie counting may not be the best move to do, wouldn’t it be easier to associate the colourful Holidays with your plate? By making sure you incorporate fruits, vegetables, and healthy ingredients in your Holiday meals, you’ll be sure that though the calories you intake maybe more than your usual but still in a controlled way instead of getting all out.

Being happy with food isn’t always about the quantity we get to eat but how much we savour and enjoy them in every bite. Eating doesn’t only mean loving the smell, texture and taste of it but knowing that once it enters your body, your body will really benefit from it.

And last but not the least, remembering that there’s always tomorrow to enjoy more eating will help you eat in the right proportion instead of over-eating in just one day.

Tracking our Spendings

Another important thing most of us gets carried away during this last month of the year is the way we spend. Don’t let splurging too much make its way and leave you making a deep hole in your pockets. While money is something I don’t promote in this blog as a driving force for people, I do acknowledge its importance in our life.

Having money is great and important but we shouldn’t let it rule over our lives to the point where our good intentions be turned the wrong way. This season of giving, make sure to give only up to the best of your ability. Spending way too much than you can afford just so you can give is being boastful already and not in anyway good.

It is always the thought that counts and simple, thoughtful, and consciously-thought gifts makes it more worth than giving extravagant ones that only symbolises monetary value but misses the real value of why you gave it.

Getting enough Rest

No matter what age you’re in, Self-Care is a must. As our society slowly comes back to life and get togethers that has been missed out the past years has come back as well, let’s remember to party in moderation.

I get it, you’ve missed each other’s company. And yes, talking face-to-face can never be replaced with day-to-day virtually talking to each other. Yet, planning to make sure your body also gets the rest it needs is a must.

Don’t let your body get overwhelmed and burnt-out just so you could show yourself in parties. Get togethers means enjoying the moment and not coming there half hearted because all you can think of is getting back home and dozing off.

Make sure to plan your gatherings and get that ample rest your body needs.

TAKEAWAY

Happiness from Within

With all these joyous celebrations, it is easy to forget the true meaning of why we celebrate Christmas in the first place. For others, it may simply be a long holiday, but for like us, Christians’s, it is the day that marks the birth of Jesus, the Son of God, our Saviour.

That alone should be celebrated without the need of any glitz and glamour that we have been used to. This should be enough to give us peace we needed in our life, and the happiness from within that our Great Saviour has been born.

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