When watching movies becomes a great Self-Care

Most of you know me as a Self-Care mom mentor, others as a mom who loves nature trips, well, I know nobody’s asking but just so you know, I or we as a family also love watching movies as a way to relax and bond. The thing with watching movies is most people associate it with being a couch potato, well, not all. Another thing is how you choose the movies you watch. No matter what explanation you give, what you watch can affect you, your mindset, and your mood, so better choose wisely.

I was truly inspired by the last film we watched last Friday night and can’t help not to share it with you. Not because of the story or advertising or whatever but the lesson I got from the movie itself. Plus, just to relate it with Self-Care, these are the movies you should be watching. haha.. Inspiring movies that could make you think of your own life and how to make it better. Being a couch potato doesn’t seem a bad idea if you look at it that way.

Anyways, the movie is called American Underdog. This movie is an inspirational true story of NFL’s 2-time MVP, Kurt Warner. There isn’t a better movie to watch and get inspired if you’re having those days where you think your dreams seems impossible to reach.

I’m not an NFL fan nor do I understand the game itself. Growing up in the Philippines, we’re more into basketball. Anyways, I sure was able to understand the mechanics of Football fast enough so I can cheer along during the movie itself. haha

What I love with this movie is that from the very start, it’s been laid for the audience loud and clear how it felt like a thread going to a needle would it be for anyone who would dream of being a NFL player. For Kurt, he’s young enough to understand the hurdles and wasn’t scared at all to conquer those setbacks and fears despite knowing them. Instead, he worked his way up and did what was supposed to be done.

While doing all the drills and making sure his body was on shape to be on a team and be able to play seems still not be enough for him to get his dream easily, he says this line, “Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do, until you can do what you want to do”. And I think a lot of us could resonate with him. Every successful person you see and admire could relate to this and you just need to have patience and wait for your time.

As much as I want to re-tell you the whole story, I don’t think I could give justice on how beautiful the film is and besides, I’m not much of a good storyteller, so….I hope you find time to watch it yourself!

I won’t leave you hanging though…here’s some lines I loved and want to share with you all and hope inspires you and get you motivated as well.

I am a work in progress

If this is your dream, you have to fight for it.

Life is not about what you can achieve, it is what you can become

Character translates anywhere.

Don’t get too comfortable.

And these lines as well to inspire you to be more grateful of your partner-in-life, your hubby as life wouldn’t be as great as it is without a great team.

Winning doesn’t always feel like winning, huh?

It doesn’t mean anything if you don’t have someone to share it with.

We did this, We did this together.

I’m not sure if you felt my emotions while watching this movie with the way I write about this but I’d like to tell you that yes, I cried, and cried a lot. Not because I was sad but because of how proud I am of how he was able to accomplish his dream and inspired not to give up on mine as well.

I’d like to hear from you as well on how you find American Underdog as well. I hope you write them in the comments and let this momma movie buff friendship begin! Lols!

Anyways, if your in the mood for more inspiring movies, I’d greatly recommend these:

Moneyball

We are Marshall

Coach Carter

The Blind Side

The Longest Yard

The Express

42

Trouble with the Curve

When the Game Stands Tall

If you’re wondering why all of them are sports related??? Well, doesn’t a winning game give more excitement to a story?And I love when that happens! haha. I’d also want to share my/our own way of reaching a summit. Hope you get to read this trip of ours!

I hope you all a great Chinese New Year and keep yourselves safe from the Pandemic jolts! More inspiring blogs to come! Lastly, just so you know, I’ve got a workshop coming out called OWN YOUR TIME. This is specifically made for moms who can’t seem to find their rhythm with time. Attending this workshop would surely bring back the confidence in you in tacking your goals as you’ll find you have more time to do more than you can imagine, and take note, doing it happily and not with stress😉 Make sure to REGISTER NOW!

Learning more about how to be a Vegan

When it comes to transitioning your life for the better, you’d be surprised how an eye-opener it is as something as simple as a one word, “VEGAN” can have different meaning and specifications.

In my journey as an advocate for Self-Care in MommyWithAGoal, I’ve met a handful of great women who are vegan. Not a new thing right? While I might not be committing to being one anytime soon, it got me curious.

And guess what, there’s a whole Vegan world apparently! What’s amazing is that what my narrow mind knows about vegan such as someone who’ll only have salad all day, everyday, isn’t that at all. Just the thought of having salad every dinner makes me think twice already. Get me?! That’s how narrow-minded I was.

Let’s start with the misconception of vegan being the same as vegetarian. If this made you frown and read again what you just read just so you could understand clearly what I just said, then clearly, you’re at the same level as I am in knowing these things. haha! Not to worry though, we’ve got the internet to get more info.😆 To save you some research time, here’s the summary:

Vegans avoid consuming:

  • meat
  • poultry
  • fish and shellfish
  • eggs
  • dairy products
  • honey
  • insects
  • rennet, gelatin, and other types of animal protein
  • stock or fats that derive from animals

Vegetarians avoid consuming:

  • meat, such as beef, pork, and game
  • poultry, such as chicken, turkey, and duck
  • fish and shellfish
  • insects
  • rennet, gelatin, and other types of animal protein
  • stock or fats that derive from animal slaughter

However, do consume byproducts such as:

  • eggs
  • dairy products, such as milk, cheese, and yogurt
  • honey

Interesting right?? As simple as that, you’ve already gained more knowledge in a few seconds of reading! haha.. As this article focuses on being vegan, here’s what I found out on my research. There’s different kinds of Vegan! What I love about this is that realising that I can be a vegan too! Read along to know more if you can be too…

Kinds of Vegan

Dietary Vegan – No meat, dairy, or eggs; however, not focused on animal-free clothing or products

Ethical Vegan – No meat, diary, or eggs and avoids animal-based products like leather.

Green Vegan – Similar as an Ethical Vegan, but with a different reason: to reduce carbon footprint.

Raw Vegan – A strictly plant-based diet with food that hasn’t been cooked over 105-115F (40-14C).

Plant-based Vegan – No meat, diary, eggs, or processed foods.

VB6 – A strict vegan diet before 6pm, eats whatever they want (within moderation) after 6pm.

Paris Vegan – Eats vegan daily, but vegetarian when dining out or with friends/family.

Weekday/weekend vegan – Chooses specific days, such as weekdays or weekends, to avoid meat, dairy or eggs.

Virtually Vegan – No meat, and avoids dairy & eggs as much as possible.

Travel Vegan – Eats vegan diet daily, but experiments with local cuisine when traveling.

So there you have it! I hope this gives you a bit to think about your diet and how you consume food in general.

I’d like to end this article with a thought I just happened to have while writing this:

We consume food as it is a necessity, but what we forget to realise is the food our body needs isn’t based on the quantity for our body to function to its capacity but by the quality of food we intake. May this be an eye-opener for you, and me, to make wise food choices as we munch our way to living better and healthy.

Jeannine Paulsen Lirio-Javier, MommyWithAGoal

Learn more on how you can make wise food choices by not being fooled by “Healthy Disguised” food options you can find around.

Lastly, know that transitioning a lifestyle is a journey. It’s not like how Thanos does in the Marvel movie wherein in a snap, everything will change as you wish it would. It is important to enjoy the journey and have patience while doing it. Take it easy on yourself and until you reach your goal of being a Vegan.

It is also a big help you have a great support group which can guide and motivate you along the way.

A New Year, Are you ready for a New You??

I was quite hesitant to use this title because I don’t want to make misconceptions about this article, but why not??

Most of us associate New Year’s with hopes of being a new person. Not that we’re changing our faces or names but a new perspective in life. That’s what it should be actually as that’s how we should be doing each year.

But how do we change in just a day?? Well, it may not be as instant as what we are used to now a days but believe me, every little change you do in your life would matter if you just constantly do it everyday.

Reading a book per se is one way of doing it. This book I’ll recommend ain’t a new one. You might even heard it a lot of times already and even read it. If you had, then I hope you got the gist of it like I did and had your life transformed the way you want it. If not, then hang on for the ride! You’ll be reaching your own stars, just like how you’ve specifically wished for!

We are always told to as a child to dream. It’s the only thing everyone can do, no matter what circumstance in life we’re in now, that’s sky’s the limit! Cause why not, it’s your dream and all you’ll need is your imagination, mind, and yourself. It something personal where you don’t need to think of what others dream of, just yours. You don’t care how you’ll be able to reach them or what does it takes you to reach them.

Well, that’s how The Secret by Rhonda Byrne has influenced my life since 2008 when my then bf-now hubby gave me as a Christmas gift. I can still vaguely remember that scene where he send me off in the bus terminal as I made my way back home to the province to celebrate Christmas with my family. He gave me the book in a sealed small paper bag.

photo from Amazon

I’m not the kind of person who loves receiving gifts actually as I’m not a gift giver as well. haha. (I’m just a fair person) so when he gave his gift as a surprise, all I can give in return is a kiss and hug. haha! As the bus left the terminal and I was left alone, I hurriedly opened his gift. Not knowing to expect, I was actually surprised he gave me a book. haha.

First of all, he’s a self-confessed NOT-A-BOOK person. The only books he read are those school books required when he’s still studying. Second is the title of the book, The Secret. Daunting for me when I saw it first not knowing what it is about. I haven’t heard of this book before despite loving to read books (my dad’s book collection which are the ones I usually read are actually more of the 90s famous thriller ones John Grisham kind) So having this kind of Self-development book is such a new thing for me and thrilled to have it!

My 1.5 hr trip went so quick as I got too engrossed with the book. I actually almost missed my stop! haha.. As I finished the last few pages at home, I knew it would be our topic in messages as talk back and forth throughout the holidays while we spend our time with our own families.

As the New Year of 2009 came in, we knew that our lives would be turned around. Yes! You know that inner confidence you didn’t knew you had inside and the fears of uncertainty quietly slips under the bed, too shy to come out due to your overwhelming attraction of the universe that doesn’t want me/us to be stopped.

Truly enough, our lives was turned upside down that year as despite the world going through recession that time, we braved our way to finding new and better life adventures and career. That’s been almost 10 years ago and loaded with tons of mostly highs and some lows in life, we got married, had 2 beautiful daughters, and have quitted my 9-5 job to have more time taking care of our family. Despite the very high cost of living here in Singapore, I can say that we’re among the blessed ones to be living beyond what our dreams could imagine as a single income family.

As I learned the the twist and turns of managing wisely my time as a Stay-At-Home-Mom, I now devote my time to something I advocate the most, Self-Care. As a matter of fact, I just surpassed a dream of mind that I’ve been having for sometime, read more on my last article, on how I Shared A Christmas. Okay, too much storytelling and back to this book review.

This book had made waves when it came our in the early 2000’s. A Self-help book that’s been too much talked about that they even made it into a film/ short documentary. Find any coach or mentor that advocates on self-development and they’ll surely include this book on one of your must-read.

This book focuses on the Law of Attraction and helps you change the mindset most of us grew up believing in as that’s what the society feeds us. The title “The Secret” is so captivating that it makes anyone who sees it wonder what could be in it. As a human, we all got the urge to be more curious on things especially if it’s said as a secret, don’t we. That’s the catch!

This empowering book encourages everyone to visualise themselves reaching whatever their hearts desires. It gives you that boost of motivation you’ve never even though you’ve have in the first place which makes it amazing. You just go with the flow of life as the universe seems to always be at your side making you afloat nearer and nearer to your goals, one at a time.

What I love about this though is despite it encouraging you to reach your goals, it’s strategically done the “good way”. You know, not those easy money thing or those that lead you to the wrong direction of life just to attain material wealth.

The principle you attract through the learnings you get gravitates you to give back more to others, find gratitude in small and big wins that come your way, and mainly to focus your energy to a mindset that makes you think of the good things despite any hurdles that come your way. As they say, life can be full of bumps and it’s only the way you react on every bump that makes a difference.

With this kind of mindset, no matter what circumstance is thrown into your life, you’ll always find the good on it and eventually you’ll find yourself in a good place no matter what. And you know what happens when you’re in that good disposition in life?? You do good too! So there’s no way any minute of your life would go wasted on things you’ll spend your time now and regret afterwards.

With all the great things I have to say to this book, I must also mention one controversy this book had been hit the most. Yes, I’m talking about its religious beliefs. My take on that would be from a perspective of a person who lived in Singapore, one of the most multi-cultural countries in the world, for about a decade. There’s nothing respect on each other’s belief that can’t be settled and have peace on.

Singaporeans who’s composed of 3 major nationalities, Chinese, Indians, and Malay. All of them having different beliefs and totally different cultures. But hey, see how Singapore prospers? How do they show respect to each other? Well, simply giving way to each other’s needs. Let’s take holidays and festivities for example. We all celebrate and enjoy Chinese New Year, Eid al-Fitr, Diwali, and Christmas. How cool is that!

So that’s it! If you are looking for a great book to read and am thinking to turn your life for the better this 2022, I truly recommend The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.

A Happy New Year to all!!

This post is a part of Book Marathon 2022 by https://outsetbooks.com

It Started as such a Daring idea: Share A Christmas Project

When I started MommyWithAGoal, my main goal was to hopefully inspire others (especially mothers alike) with what I advocate the most, Self-Care. Little did I know that it is I who would be learning more from this motherhood community. From the usual everyday challenge of having things done while trying to be mindful of making a priority to give myself some time as well.

It’s truly a great feeling when you yourself feel whole from within, happy and grateful. You have this feeling of power within you to help more to others. This gave me an urge to do something I never thought I could pull off when SuperTyphoon Odette devastated my husbands hometown in Maasin City, Southern Leyte. As far as he can remember, this was the only time his province got hit this hard by a Typhoon and it was quite hard to comprehend that those you usually just see in news has happened to your neighbour’s homes.

It was also then that I realise how the government and media focus more on big cities in the country such as Cebu, Bohol, and Siargao (currently Philippines famous must-go-to island and Surfing Capital of the country) and some provinces like Southern Leyte that has been hit the same way, left unrecognised. I’m not trying to be political here as I know the government is also doing their best to provide as much as they can. A country full of islands and tons of places affected, I don’t even want to imagine how much stressful it was for those in-charge.

What I’m trying to highlight is how much a little of each can make a difference if we all of us had the urge to help. In situations like this, every small help that can be contributed matters. That’s when the daring idea started.

I knew I wanted to help yet don’t want to put our finances in jeopardy as well. Despite not knowing where to get funds, let alone know how to run a fundraising, I went on and did it anyway. haha. True enough, with the support of family, friends, and this motherhood community, every small contribution have truly lightened up hearts of many.

This project has really humbled every aspect of my whole being. From starting to ask old friends I knew from a very long time who I haven’t spoken in decades to reaching out to new friends I had acquaintance through Social Media. All this swallowing of ego and loading up my confidence just so a number of people could be reached with help and make their Christmas a better one despite having experienced this kind of calamity.

It took a lot of prayer and I’m so grateful to say that we’ve come up with around Php 45,000 in 4 days, just in time to prepare for Christmas. With this money came in also a donation of 100 steel roof to help those who lost their homes.

With this money, we’re able to provide 35 families with rice, canned goods and other pantry supplies that can aid them for a while and a simple Christmas feast of roasted chicken, chiffon cake, and soft drinks.

It is with great gratitude and humble gratefulness from the people who shared some of their blessings to make this happen. The financial donation really helped a lot.

As I’ve mentioned earlier, I do not have enough knowledge on how fundraisings work and once the money was in, I was faced with another hurdle. The fact that the whole city was devastated, communication lines were put to halt, and even withdrawing money from banks caused a lot of difficulty.

My in-laws needed to go to a specific place in their town to have signal on their phone. We also need to reach them through overseas call (like the old days) instead of what we commonly and freely use nowadays as communication (viber, FB Messenger, or WhatsApp). That made us realise how helpful these technology had helped us make our lives easier yet we never appreciate. As the saying goes, “You’ll never realise the value of something until its gone”.

Withdrawing from ATM machines weren’t available. The only big supermarket in the city was closed and those SME’s doesn’t accept credit cards nor GCash. Add to that the rapidly thinning supply due to the large demand.

Queue at the bank

Doing errands also needed to be done only during daytime as electric poles were knocked down and news says that it would take over a month to put everything back to normal. Without lights, once the sun sets, it was difficult and dangerous going around especially with trees still blocking roads.

Luckily with the help of my in-laws doing the grind of hard work, everything was able to be pulled off smoothly. Queuing outside the bank in seemed to be an endless line under the scorching sun and hustling to get the items needed from the grocery despite not knowing if the money needed to pay could be withdrawn from the bank yet has been quite an experience. A great kudos to them for their help!

All donations has been given on the eve of Christmas just in time for the celebration.

Here’s a few photos of the recipients of Share A Christmas

As Christmas doesn’t end on Christmas Day alone, same as the hurdles these families would encounter in the days to come. Due to hardware supplies from hardware stores going out of stock, we have yet to give out the steel roof and other construction materials we can purchase with the excess donation left on hand. We could only hope to have this issue settled and finally provide the needed to those families in need.

Our goal is to have this done before the Twelfth day of Christmas, well known as the Epiphany or the Feast of the Three Kings. With that, a follow-up blog post would follow.

Again, a heart-full of gratefulness for the kind donation of the following people below who had helped made Share A Christmas Project possible:

Ms. Alison Setton and Family

Ms. Zoe Chu and Family

Ms. Christal Perez and Family

Ms. Marielle Hillenbrand and Family

Ms. Carmela Duque and Family

Ms. Princess Liwag and Family

Ms. Mary Anne Galang and Family

Ms. Sheryl Cantos and Family

Ms. Janice Hollander-Urbach and Family

Ms. Michelle Hon and Family

Ms. Tracy Jungwirth and Family

Ms. Minda Villa

Dra. Sheri Paola Lirio

Ms. Phola Amyll Lirio

Ms. Pauline Lirio-Panaligan and Family

Ms. Susan Canobas and Family

Mr. & Mrs Apolo & Mila Lirio and Family

Ms. Dawn Nicole Macandili

Ms. Nadine Baritua-Soriano and Family

Ms. Hanna Ortega and Family

Ms. Twinkle Roa and Family

Ms. Judy Aguilar and Family

Learnings for this project:

It only takes an initiative from someone to be able to help more. It doesn’t matter whether you don’t have the funds, people, or even tons of hurdles along the way. Helping can be done if you want to.

There’s so much good people in the world. Despite all the bad people we hear from the news and how scary the world could be, humanity still remains and the sense of community still is there.

Gratefulness should be mindfully done everyday. Calamities like a Supertyphoon that can devastate cities in a day should be an eye-opener to everyone and see how blessed they are to be living the life they are living in. We may all have problems in life and different circumstances but like any typhoon, we should keep in mind that those problems shall pass.

As 2021 comes to an end and we enter a New Year, I hope you get to read my other article, Self-Care during the Holidays, and be inspired to do some much needed Self-Care.

A Happy New Year to All!!!!

Great ways to Speed-up Cleaning before New Year

It’s the time of the year again! I’m not talking about Christmas and New Year’s coming but making sure our home is tidy. It’s not that our home hasn’t been cleaned the whole year but as someone who have lived her whole life in tropical countries where Spring Season doesn’t come, well, December is my “Spring Cleaning” month.

Same as everyone does when they do “Spring Cleaning”, all that accumulated junk comes out of its shell and assessed if it’s worth keeping or you decide that life would be better off without it. There’s one thing I want to point out during this mission though.

Do not regret seeing the things you've bought that wasn't able to serve its purpose. Simply feel grateful that you're able to purchase that thing  and accept that life must go on without it. No feelings of resentment so you get to avoid that negative energy in your life and instead accept much more abundance. 

As an avid planner, I know that the only solution to avoid getting overwhelmed is to plan. You’ve got a month to do this cleaning and holiday to celebrate as well. If you’re lucky, you’ll also have some birthday celebrations in between which can make things more exciting.

Oh! I almost got forgot to mention your biggest supporters of keeping your home clean “your kiddos” *wink* are at home the whole time for Christmas School Holidays! With all that, are you almost feeling tired already? Hope not!

This simple guide though can help you get your cleaning easier and make you achieve that tidy home you want before the clock strikes for a new year.

What you’ll need

An open-mind. When it comes do spring cleaning, you need to keep your emotions intact and be open to giving away/ donating things that you don’t need or throwing out away things that’s malfunctioning already and can’t serve its purpose yet you’ve been still holding on at your home. Emotional attachment to material things is common. So don’t fret too much, it takes practice on letting go.

Stick with your plan. When it comes to spring cleaning, it’s easy to get too excited wanting to finish your task. Try to resist this temptation and simply stick to your plan. ONLY do what you have planned to do for that day. This will keep you relaxed, happy and be able to savour your accomplishment for that day, and be motivated to keep going for the next day. This would avoid exhaustion, overwhelmed, and quitting on the task you’ve started.

Get the whole family involved. You may not be getting joyful reaction from your family members especially if you have teenagers but know that this is a rewarding task. As part of the family, nothing is more rewarding than feeling part of it. Yes, that means on fun times and hard times (cleaning/tidying up your home).

Tips to speed cleaning

Stop cleaning one room at a time. Do chores that are connected to each other at a time for the whole house. Perfect example of this are the following:

✨Wiping windows, mirrors then washing curtains(changing curtains), rugs

✨Dusting cupboards, cabinets, then clean floor

✨Wash laundry, dry, organise clothing cabinets. You can also include your linen cabinet when doing this

✨Check pantry and fridge for expired food, clean fridge and cupboard

✨Lastly, as a rule of thumb, whenever you go from one room to the other, bring along with you whatever items you need to return to its correct place. This saves you from going back and forth.

There you have it! I hope this simple tips helps you do your cleaning before the New Year comes! I’m now off to my own home cleaning!

A Blessed Christmas to all! Hope you get inspired with my last article on the Best Christmas gift a Parent can give their children.