The beauty of Marriage

Are you okay?

A simple sentence that can keep a marriage happy, going and remain loving. Don’t get me wrong though, this simple phrase shouldn’t just be asked to your partner/by your partner but needs to be answered with sincerity and truth.

Having been married for almost 9 years now, I’ve learned a lot on how to deal with the tweaks of my hubby and I sure know he did too! Marriage is very complex. Emotions such as having someone to love and be loved by someone is great but when mixed with the reality that you need to keep up with another person’s imperfections??? I’m sure all of us would think twice.

The reality is, all of us wish and pray to be find someone who fits perfectly an imaginary person that couldn’t exist because that person is a mirror of yourself. No matter how people say he/she is the perfect person I’ve prayed and hope to be with, I simply won’t agree. For sure there’s that snoring that you hated for the first few years of marriage but simply learned to live with it. Or that annoying mood swings that you don’t know any person can keep up with yet you learned overtime how to act on it without making that person so dear to you more upset.

Once you’ve learned to accept those things, that’s the time you’ll know can say that the person you’ve fully accepted and is the perfect person you want to live with the rest of your life.

A lot of couples though get too complaisant knowing their partner well enough that they forget that their other half is a human. It only means that despite being with them all those years, let’s just say, you “still” don’t know them. That’s why it’s important to always check with one another.

A simple phrase such as “Are you okay?” can mean a lot. What being together all those years helps though is being able to reply to that question with the unfiltered truth. Whether you got disappointed with a petty thing your other half didn’t noticed upset you or you’re all good and just in a mood of talking that much that day, you’re free to blurt out without thinking twice that you might upset your listener because you know he/she will accept you no matter what.

And that’s the beauty of marriage.

When was the last time you checked with your other half, “Are you okay?”

Let me know in the comments below if you find this helpful and meaningful.

Our brain is a muscle

I heard that from somewhere but strike me a lot.

I actually needed to google that to check on that too. Well, guess what?! It’s NOT! I know it’s an organ but based on some studies, it acts more like a muscle. Oh yes! It can change and get stronger.

What does it have to do with my/your mindset?!

Exactly what you just said. MIND – SET!

How hard could it be to understand that? Yet, a lot of people tend to disregard this thought rather than using it to improve themselves or better yet, their lives.

Now how does the way you think of things change the way you live your life? Here’s a perfect example.

Think about your body. Let’s start with your hair. How to you see your hair? Is it healthy, dry, needs touch-up, colour? It actually doesn’t matter, what’s important is you should love it! Our hair is our hair. It may be healthy, dry, needs touch-up or colour but if you think deeper on the real use of hair which is to serve as a source of heat insulation and cooling (when sweat evaporates from soaked hair) as well as protection from ultra-violet radiation exposure, then maybe we’ll have more appreciation with the kind of hair we’ve been blessed with.

I guess you get my point already and not need to go one by one with the parts of our body. Same goes with everything that happens in your life.

The way you see things and appreciate the small things could slowly make a difference in your life.

Try it! When your alarm goes off tomorrow morning, appreciate the fact that you’ve been given another day to live instead of hitting the snooze button and contemplate on another miserable day ahead of you.

Let me know in the comments below on how your day goes and which did you choose to do!

Happy mind-setting!