Mistakes to avoid when changing your life
It’s a new year once again! And like everyone else, we are rooting to better ourselves, our life, and everything in between. I’ve been into goal-setting, resolutions, manifesting, visualizing, and all, don’t get me wrong, they all work…..if you do it right!
Here’s the problem, most of us simply run for our lives head-on. Even knowing what we are doing or let’s just say, not being mindful enough to know what we are experiencing.
Sometimes, we don’t actually need to know where we are going or know what the future would bring us). We didn’t make time to reflect on our experiences. Understand what we have learned from them so as not to repeat the same mistakes.
Planning to make 2023 your year? Here are some things you need to reflect on and avoid making again:
#1 Spending too much planning
I’m all into strategy. As one of Mel Robbin’s podcasts, she said there, strategy is better than willpower. We get so hooked on planning things. We miss reminding ourselves that without action, all the hard work and time spent on planning goes down the drain.
So, this 2023, let’s have a plan, and strategies, go to pros and cons, and start the ride! I promise you, if ever you stumble on something wrong, you’ll be able to find a way to get around things to make your plan work. It’s a problem after all, so there has to be a solution somewhere.
#2 Walk the talk
A bit similar to the first one, talking too much about what you want to do yet not actively doing it is nothing. How many years have you been telling me that you’ll lose weight? I bet all the inspiration you have in you only lasted for a few days and with a bit of help or motivation, you could have lasted for a week. Yet after that, what?
Why not start to do mindful choices when eating? You won’t achieve a fit body in days, or weeks. It is through being mindful of putting more veggies and proteins on your plate than anything else served during dinner but in the long run, these conscious decisions you do actually multiply subconsciously. Without you knowing, you’ve already made a lifestyle change!
#3 Taking it all in
As much as there isn’t any way that one could please everyone, we, as in, most of us, try to do our everyday activities in a way to please others. We listen to fashion trends, diet trends, parenting advice, parents’ advice, friends’ advice, news information, etc!!! Don’t you feel it’s too much?
Sometimes we just need to believe in whatever knowledge we know, trust our instincts, and go ahead and do whatever it is that would make us happy. There are so many rules already to be to live as a good citizen. Lessen your stress and frustrations by simply, doing things your way (the right way, if you know what I mean😃)
And by that, I mean taking advice from someone you know is reliable to help you become the person you want to be. As they say, you don’t need many friends, you just need a few that’s true!
#4 Being a perfectionist
Perfection is an illusion. It only is perfect in one’s eye, and that’s even after all the time and effort you had, has been up. If you’ll be waiting for the perfect timing for you to do whatever you want in life, just because, it isn’t perfect yet, then that wouldn’t come!
I watched this movie (don’t ask me the title because I’m bad at that! 🤪) where they hired a new project manager for this project they’ve been waiting for years and years to launch. They have all the right people in place, and all the best tools and materials too. But, for the past decade, every time they try to launch, they always decide to delay, yet again, for another reason.
Going back to this new project manager, come launching day. Full of anxiousness and doubts, they proceed! When asked what made him finally do it, his answer was simple, you’ve got all the best people and all of them brought an umbrella even if the weather report says it’ll be sunny all day.
Sometimes, you just need to let go of things and trust yourself “fully” that everything will go smoothly. And when it doesn’t, like what I’ve said before, for sure there’s a solution to that because it’s a problem!
#5 Knowing your worth
Knowing your worth can go a long way. It’s actually part of the framework for how your life looks like. The invisible boundaries we set in all aspects of our life. It is where we stop when we know things in our life aren’t where we want them to be. It is because of this that we get this eureka moment where we decide to change the direction of our life and claim what is for us, what is our purpose.
Have you found this helpful for you? Let me know in the comments below.